Definitely talk about it for sure, and work through it if you can! Having that conversation is important for you both to be on the same page, whatever that looks like. If you can work through it, that's awesome. But also remember, that you can be two wonderful people individually, that love and respect each other, and ultimately aren't the best match. Hoping it works out for you!

Okay, I’m not a guy. But I can say that I have never actually dated “my type”. I have met guys who are physically my type, but then their personalities suck. What I’m saying is that there is more to attraction than body type. And people can be attracted to more than one body type. I think you are making problems where they don’t exist.

She has sexual trauma that may never get better

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He can't afford a lawyer

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I think it's absolutely wild that you are acting as if him being attracted to women who don't look like you = he isn't attracted to you (when he's been having sex with you for four months)!

I'm not trying to be mean, but to me it seems like you are feeling insecure and you're lashing out at him because of it.

He didn't cause your insecurity, he hasn't been dishonest, he hasn't taken advantage of you. Your emotions are valid BUT you are responsible for dealing with them and not acting as if he is at fault because you had an emotional reaction.

You're WAY out of line, you've been accusing him of bad motives and it seems like trying to manipulate him into feeling guilty/bad for every having been attracted to someone else. It's not good and you have NO reason to be upset with him, NONE.

This could be because you were hoping for something more than just sex to eventually develop and it hasn't. Was he upfront with you about only wanting no strings attached/FWB in the beginning?

If you agreed to FWB and hoped he would change his mind once he got to know you, then you should end this because it's not going to change, instead of acting like his attraction to other women/not being sexually attracted to you is why he won't commit.

You are worthy of love and acceptance exactly as you are. There are plenty of people who would be sexually attracted to you and some of them are seeking exclusive/commited relationships. Find one of them and while you search focus on becoming the best version of yourself so you're ready to be a healthy, secure, and supportive partner when you find them.

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Answer my question, is this guy your ideal person.. Because if he isn’t, are you also lying about being attracted to him?

You’re being weird. It’s so unnecessary

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If it's a hormonal IUD, it can be rendered ineffective by other substances just like the pill. Maybe you have shit luck. Maybe you had a drug interaction. Or maybe you need to check your house for a bottle of St John's Wort.

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My boyfriend hasn't liked women who have had 4 kids and are grandmother's till he met me. Doesn't stop an insane amount of attraction and him saying I'm the sexiest woman he's ever been with. Type isn't set in stone, maybe there is something about you that he finds incredibly attractive and he's just not experienced it before

Because most men will fuck anything if given the opportunity.

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Yeah just let it go, you are not that close and frankly there no need to explain.

And if you can get that flavor anytime you want, it's kind of nice to have some variation from time to time.

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That wasnt a lie... he IS attracted to you as a curvy woman. A person can be attracted to many things about a woman... he may not have a "type" as i dont myself. Ive dated many different women and all i thought were beautiful although if u had them stand in a line shoulder to shoulder youd be amazed at the variations. Bottom line is if he is attracted to you, which id assume he was bc u guys are together, then why does it bother u? Hes with u.... chose u. U may not be the same body type that he watches on porn (hell most people are not that body type) but he obviously has chose u.

I mean If he's having sex with you then he's obviously sexually attracted to you??