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Did you know all of this about her before you married her?

If this is important to her and she is important to you then you either stop celebrating holidays, or at least celebrating them in your home or be prepared for her to leave when you do.

The hypocrisy of following what's useful and ignoring what's not in any religion has always been a sore point with me so I do understand your frustration, but you had to have known this before you married her?

She doesn’t celebrate holidays. You knew this and still scheduled a NYE party. Stop trying to change her and accept who she is and what she values. If you wanted to spend time with her tonight, you wouldn’t have planned a party.

I feel like he would've been slightly annoyed if I asked to come over too, but it probably would've been fine overall. I can't remember if I was busy that day but there was a probably a good reason he didn't invite me. So that's why I think I was being unreasonable about the whole thing. Regardless, I still have those uneasy feelings and I have no idea how to make them go away :/ Other friends have told me my feelings are valid though so I really can't tell if I'm the wrong or not.

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Tell him maybe you are being immature but you don’t see it that way right now and you don’t want him to contact you anymore, and if you change your mind you will contact him.

Don’t know if he will respect that or not but it’s a mature response.

Only you can know the answer to that and I think you already do. When someone lies to you the one thing you learn is that they're happy to lie to you. Maybe some people can, but I couldn't come back from that.

Speaking as a guy, I have more than one type. My wife is a perfect combination of all of them

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so... are you asking something or just telling your story? Obviously you need to leave. He actively wants you to go.

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... he was looking down at your work. You said it yourself. He doesn't respect what you do and will not showcase it.

He has an EA with her, and that is why she doesn't want you around. She considers you expendable, and he has gone along with it, so have you. Stop it and change the dynamic.

If it feels wrong, don't do it. I just hope you're not trying, in a backhanded way, to set some standard for what your girlfriend can do with her friends.

I dont know a single guy, including myself, who is attracted to only one body type

Yes, you are an idiot. You are not her soul mate. You are sneaky fun for her. Do your husband a favor and leave, but don't expect happily ever after with her either. (You also might be gay, not bi/pan. I smell comp het.)

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Does this happen frequently?

No person, not even your husband, gets to dictate how and when you sleep with other people.

Calling it a “fetish” doesn’t change that.

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