The issue is during my abroad thing ill be in a developing country for two yrs so I wont have the ability to fuuu so im tryina live it up rn hahah

It isn't fate, it's a gigantic mess. Fate would be if you had bumped into her on the street and you just reconnected. You found them on Facebook (which means you were looking for them).

Not fate, you're just another spouse cheating on her husband looking for reasons to try and validate it.

No, you don't continue the relationship because you have no relationship to continue.

First of all, do not blame yourself for what you said in the airport. You said nothing wrong, nothing that was unreasonable and he is totally gaslighting you on that.

Everything he has said to you has been a lie. Do you actually know, as a proven fact, that his mother died? Are you sure?

Do you know 100% he is who he claims to be and hasn't catfished you?

Either way, it's time to cut your losses. There is nothing wrong with meeting and starting as a LDR but you need to meet. 18 months down the line he has done everything he can to avoid doing that, he has gaslit you, demonstrably lied to you if you ever tried to meet him again, you already know it would be exactly the same.

The fact that he blocked you, his girlfriend, on ANY messaging platform is, IMO, unforgivable and an automatic breakup.

No, you don't show up in Hawaii. He won't be there. Go to Chicago, enjoy your holiday, go home a single woman and move on to dating real people

You’re naive and have poor self control. I feel bad for your husband and son. Also for the other persons spouse and kids.

Ohoh its not my ex im worried about, its the [21M] guy that I don’t want to piss off

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Poor kids. A bunch of selfish, manipulative adults and no one considering the ramifications of their actions.

No, this isn't fate. This is destructive behavior. Your husband and child deserve better.

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If you weren't interested in his fantasy, you should have just said so. Playing games to "see how far he goes with it" if you didn't want to participate is silly and manipulative. There's nothing wrong with fantasies/fetishes and talking about it with your spouse is what you should be doing, instead of hiding it. It's just another one of these threads that the conclusion of which is "you shouldn't talk about your sexual fantasies with your spouse" and that sucks. Don't be that way.

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Thanks for the template. I think I can word it around that.

> There might be a guy out there for her , but you’re not him.

If it feels like we can't move past this, so be it. But I want to try all options first. I'm very invested in her and she feels the same way.

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Hahahahahahaha

I get feeling insecure and wanting to know what to do next but the title of this post is misleading. His mom just died. His life is forever changed. And you’re still focusing on when you two can make a meet happen— and also saying you’ll find someone else— while all of this is happening? Maybe there’s some shady shit going on but you should have been direct. Tell him you’ll be here for him if and when he’s ready. That you’re sorry for what you said. That you’d love to continue to be with him, no decisions have to be made right now. No buts. No excuses. No more focusing on you for now. And then enjoy your life until he is ready to circle back. The world isn’t on fire. You don’t have to make a decision right now.

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And I also wanted to add that you can love someone and not be in a sexual relationship with them. One of my best friends is a lesbian and we love eachother very much, I WISH I was a lesbian too because she’s the perfect person for me! But I’m not and we’ve discussed it and accepted that friends is where we thrive. Now she’s married to a wonderful woman and I have two awesome friends.

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I have two middle names, my mum had three middle names. Paperwork isn’t an excuse/ reason not to add an extra name. Add one to both your kids, or wait until your daughter can voice her opinion.