Look, you know what you need to do and it is going to happen eventually anyway.

Yes, you "love" him. But you aren't going to spend your entire life with him and you know that. Your relationship is already a patchwork of compromises and some of those are compromises neither of you should be having to make for a long term relationship.

You don't know if you are lesbian yet because you have yet to have sex with anyone that you really connect with sexually. It might need a woman, but you might feel that connection with a different man. You wont know until you find out.

The love you have for him is not good enough to put aside a lifetime of sexual connection and satisfaction for yourself, and neither is the love he has for you. You realise that you cannot satisfy him as a sexual partner either? Yes, you can have sex with him and make him orgasm. But he has much better sexual experiences ahead of him with someone else who actually wants to sleep with him.

You can't sustain a relationship where you feel disgusted in any way by your partner. You must know this.

Free both of you rather than delaying the inevitable

i get it, but im asking why you say he is an ass :0

Early in your pregnancy then. I know what I’d do about that.

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I read this because I hate that women fear revenge and wanted to support but I'm afraid I just see avoidable drama here. It's not going to go well for anyone any which way. You're gone in two weeks, why not focus on something else?

Listen to your friends. They know you. You are caught up in the thrill of a new relationship. She also loves the thrill of a new relationship....over...and over....and over. There is no future with a girl like this. You are just a cast member in her harlequin romance novel, where she is the main character.

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Of course his dad has his own fictional scenario in his head. The dad hears the words and it goes out the other ear. That’s why he needs to put it in writing even though his dad denies it. It’s a reminder of what an AH he is. Sending a direct message was the kind, reasonable method. OP could post a letter to his dad on SM with all this instead.

>I dropped the charges despite the attorney telling me these things rarely work out and often only get worse.

Should've listened to the attorney.

>she's always so sorry and hates herself for those outbursts.

Of course she is, that's part of the cycle of abuse. If she was actually sorry, it wouldn't happen.

😢😂😂😂

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he hasn’t face time or called cause he was in deployment, he’s sent multiple pictures and we where texting all the time. We do face time now since he’s back

She doesn't like you. She doesn't care about your feelings. Why are you choosing to be with someone like that?

That’s also what my friends have been telling me… probably that’ll be for the best…

Sounds like you're the other woman.

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