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Long-Photograph460 t1_j2ejnqk wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in [25m] [24f] my girlfriend might be able to hear my therapy sessions by [deleted]

It’s wonderful that she is supportive! Maybe try to explain her that the concept of a „safe space“ means a lot in a therapy. Zoom is difficult enough and requires more effort from both sides to create that kind of safe space. Maybe she will be more understanding if you explain that this is not so much about the topic in the session but more about an overall feeling. Talk to her! Good luck and all the best! (Plus a therapy session is about 45mins which is the length of about every episode of every show, shouldn’t be hard for her to get distracted in an episode of her favorite show.)

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Long_Somewhere_368 t1_j2ejm8l wrote

Reply to comment by [deleted] in [24M][27F] Been dating this girl for 4 months and she's actually the most physically attractive woman I have ever seen but she's a Nazi wtf do I do?? by [deleted]

You were thinking like I was at 24.

Eventually, you’ll realize what lies underneath becomes way, more important and valuable later in life than looks. You got to be able to sit across from her and 50-60 years when the luxe are fading but you can still hold a really good conversation and I have the same values.

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IdeaEven2648 t1_j2ejlt7 wrote

Reply to [26F] [30M] I found out my boyfriend cheated on me, and I don't know what to do. by Daecii

How would he have reacted if you were messaging multiple men, trying to screw them? Imagine his reaction. Then consider if you sending him presents would've made it all a-ok. Probably not right? What's worse, nothing physical may have happened till now but how long before he finds one who agrees. You got out with no kids, no marriage, no ties to him and no STDs. Don't give him a chance to change that.

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Realistic-Airport775 t1_j2ejklq wrote

Reply to [40M][40F] Need Advice on New Relationship and Female's Behaviors by interstatelovedong

You don't deal with them. These are her problems, not yours.

She is trying to make them your problems and for you to be responsible for her needs

And she is massively insecure and is doing her best to ruin your self esteem.

Tip - If a new relationship includes insults about your appearance whilst othes praise you then this is a toxic person who is seeking to break you down. Don't be with people who do this, life is too short to put up with bad behaviour.

Time to read up on what a healthy relationship looks like.

Healthy relationship

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PixieOnAcid t1_j2eiw98 wrote

Reply to (34F)(34M) she said my needs don’t matter. I said if she honestly believes that we shouldn’t be together. by ThrowRA_tireddad22

I think this is a matter that needs to be worked out in couple's counseling.

Does she still want to be a SAHM? When you're home does she still get to go out and work on her hobbies like you tried to do over the break? When is the last time she went out of the house and did something just for herself without your or your child? It sounds to me like she either resents you for being able to lock yourself in a room away from them for the day, and/or she doesn't respect that while you're locked in your office or wherever you do your work, that you're actually working and not just relaxing in there.

It does sound like you do help out a good amount with your child but is there anything you can do to help with the mental load on your wife?

It might be worth looking into getting a babysitter for one day every couple of weeks so your wife can go out and get a break. Either that or discuss her going back to work and you getting childcare.

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