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Yea you should break up with her, she sounds like a piece of shit. She treats you like crap and then treats you worse when you try and stand up for yourself, what about this situation is really good? What about this relationship makes it worth putting up with this stuff?

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Yes. When I ask someone out, I offer a time and place. She can suggest a different time or place. That means yes.

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Why don't you lend him the 15k to pay off tne loan, and come up with an agreed payment plan, $1,500 a month for 10 months.

Sounds like a shitty abusive girlfriend. Break it off and find someone who is kind to you.

At what point did I say ghost him? You’re delusional. I said you’re at different stages of your life, so a relationship probably wouldn’t work as he’s so young.

Ive done 1 and it's caused numerous unecessary arguments about him thinking I'm trying to make him look like a bad boyfriend. I've brought 2 up to him and he acts like im crazy for feeling that way. At the end of the day I'm sure it's just the fact that I do a lot for him. It's not me that he likes. I take care of everything and he just sits back. He chips in at times but the exchange is nowhere near even.

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Thank you so much for your insight and advice I appreciate it very much and I’m very thankful for you !

As soon as I saw engaged, I knew OP should leave it alone.

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A month and she’s already finding new ways to make you miserable?? It’s actually not worth staying

What are you saying ? That I should ghost him because he is younger ? That is messed up. Look I do not like that he is younger but he is sweet and I will spend more time with him before considering dating him.

I’ve known her a long time and I do believe what I said in my post, that she was cheated on, that she earned her promotion on merit and that this current relationship is new. She isn’t like this normally.

Yeah, I know I sound pretty dumb. Kids that I love were involved and I think at the time I went autopilot I had decided to stick it out for them. He just wasn't doing as well as he should. I know it's not my burden. They're just special to me. There's like 3 years of memories missing that I should have and it's terrifying. I don't want that happening again.

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I tried to call twice he did not answer so I sent this “Or if you need to talk don’t hesitate to reach out to me, you’ve been there for me and I’ll always be there for you! I love you and I’m sorry if I did anything to cause waves in your relationship and would love to help anyway you think I can❤️”

About 15k & he’s not been clear on what it was for. Im checking in on it because he told me that he wouldn’t be ready to go get a preapproval letter for a house until this debt is paid off. I’m expecting and wanting to close on a house sooner than later. I suspect, that he’s more so embarrassed about his credit and not wanting to face the fact that he may not qualify for the loan at all so he’s using this debt payoff as a way to buy more time to boost his credit score. That’s just a guess for me because 15 K is not really a lot of debt. I have house debt, so way more by far & im not scared, but I also have high credit & income.

Break up. You’re 40, you shouldn’t need Reddit to tell you not to be in a toxic relationship with a woman who puts you down and intentionally is trying to make you super insecure.

These are facts. I went from truly desiring marriage in every way, to being okay alone if that's what it comes to.

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