There's good news here. After 8 years, he's still your BF and not your husband.

1. if she seems cool, just eliminate the middleman and communicate directly with her. Your phone will work just as well as his.

2. your BF, as you’ve surmised, seems to be just not that into you. Do with that what you like.

Ah alright. Just be cautious. Because if he even downplayed it for friends it might be a lot worse.

Im only saying this because of the part where he had to talk it out with two of his friends. I fell as if someone would do that if they were planning on ending a relationship for another person.

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Separate finances then.

I would just leave it alone. His finances are his issues, he probably sees any inquiries you're making as nagging.

No he is not religious. He has not told me of anything asexual, and has not told me that he was gay. If that was the case, it would really Hurt me that we were getting married. His best friend is also gay, and they’ve been friends since 1st grade. He knows my fiancé isn’t gay.

Kids kiss adults have sex

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It seems like you want to troll instead of offer advice. That seems insane, since you want to write off love for some reason. I said I am torn because I feel like the whole thing is taboo because of one factor. Either way we are both very happy together. I am asking advice about remaining friends with him. How did act in it? We never kissed on the mouth and I don't remember holding his hand.

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Your friend has no responsibility towards this baby until a DNA test proves the child is his. Your friend requested proof and she hasn't responded. Until she does, your friend doesn't have to do anything. He might consider contacting a family law lawyer and asking what steps he needs to take over this situation.

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Absolutely, I’m scared his credit will slow us from getting a house and I am currently expecting. It’s hard for me because I’m already a homeowner so I am not used to apartment style living & I certainly don’t want to bring a baby to an apartment. I was hoping we could buy before summer, but idk that that will happen with where he is.

Thank you. I don’t see this being a long term issue but it is something I am upset by. He doesn’t tear me down, I can honestly say that this is the only situation that has made me feel this way. The problem with our friends is that he actually also downplayed things to them, just not as much as he downplayed them to me. I am struggling to find the balance because one of the two guys, I am very close to.

She’s engaged, which means, while she’s engaged then you back off. Would you seriously want to be with someone that’s messing around behind the back of a guy she agreed to marry.

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Idk what it’s called. So I pay my own cc and I have a house in another city that I pay all the bills for and all personal expenses like nails, hair, shopping etc. but I have my own savings account still. I have no access to his personal account or bills and he has none to mine.

We both contribute a percentage of our check to a joint account in which our shared household bills and groceries come from as well as life insurance and joint savings.

Does that clarify things? I guess technically we are kind of separate, which I intend to keep that way.

Knowing this info, how would you tackle this?

I should probably consider suggesting this to him. I’ve been really patient with him over the years but somedays it has been wearing thin based off what we’ve recently done.

You’re already acting on it. I’m seriously beginning to wonder if this is a joke post, either that or you’re insane.

What was the joke?

Come on, spill the beans.

Maybe sit down and do monthly planning together. Keep a spreadsheet with planned payment goals, and then check in monthly to see where you are at.

You seem reasonable, accepting that he has made mistakes in the past. Its perfectly normal that you would just want to agree on a path to move forward. As newlyweds, you are probably planning for things like a home purchase, potential kids, etc.