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First off congratulations on your weight loss journey and you look fantastic. I had been on my weight loss journey back in my early 20s and had reddit been around I'd have posted pics. Now you've to do a little self reflection are posting pics to get revenge on him or just sharing your journey? It was definitely wrong on your husband's part to make you feel so small and make unattractive. But any guy would have a problem if random men remarks on their so. So what you ultimate objective get back at your hubby fir screwing up and show him how attractive you're rn.

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Well then, you have your answer, which you yourself are aware of. What do you expect from Reddit? Validation? You won't get any.

He seems to have been a bit of a prick before but, after reading your whole post and this comment, I am confident you didn't paint a full picture and were a bit of a prick yourself.

Stop getting back at your husband. Start loving him. That's the advice.

What was the "joke"? Either way, I'd also explain to her that a joke is only a joke if both parties find it funny. If she thinks those jokes are funny, maybe she needs to reconsider how harmful her idea of humor is.

Tell her what you said here. Ultimately, it’s her life and career to blow up and her friendships to lose. But you can certainly tell her how you feel and that if this continues, you’re going to have to reevaluate the relationship. You can also tell her you don’t want to hear about him anymore.

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What was the joke?

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You can probably go to the county auditors office, or whatever office in your area that keeps official records, and figure out if she even has a kid.

I think you are right about the co dependency issue and my lack of healthy relationship experience. The only other relationship i was in was 8 year long, toxic and abusive one and ive tried to freak out less in this healthy relationship. Where my ex was dominant and expressive he was also uncaring and hurtful with anger issues. I come from home with unstable mother and father that abandoned us.

Ive told him that i would Like for him to be more expressive as that is the how i feel connected to someone.. Not just how much they love me but meaningful things. And that i understand he is not that deep and meet him half way.

I crave that romance and deep connection that i see other ppl have but at the same time i know i got safety, comfort, respect and care which i am utmost grateful for and thats why i feel i am being unfair to him. But its also Like a nagging feeling thst i cant get rid of.

Ive told him if he ever have a problem to tell me and rather upset me but not keep things away from me. He would rather keep his trauma hidden because it would upset me for the moment. You hit it spot on that he wants to keep peace at all times.

I like him but not his age. If he was my age it would be different. Yes he won't leave me alone but you put all the blame on me. You don't address his behavior. You don't think it is gross he is behaving that way towards someone older than him ?

There was no return address, and I do think it might have helped. I at least know that’s what my husband would’ve thought. I was done. I wanted nothing more to do with these awful cops and their shitty investigation, I couldn’t. I ripped it up and trashed it because I wanted this to be done.

I know it may sound silly to some, but I couldn’t revisit this. I just couldn’t. This response is something I fear my husband will sympathize with, yet another reason why I haven’t told him.

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The last year and a half? Yes. The past month, no.

A heart that is meant to love you will never take pleasure out of hurting you. And a person that loves you will never have too much pride to appologise.

A few months in and you're already ready to text another girl to see if they have something going on?? Yeah, I couldn't be in a relationship where I feel the need to do that.

Generally speaking, I call everybody everybody's name especially when i am sleepy. And it has nothing to do with me having feelings for the other person. If I were to call my boyfriend ABC and he called ABC to see if we had a thing, I'd break up with him.

This is exactly how it feels to me. I feel like a placeholder for just in case.

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