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I mean, it doesn’t really sound like he’s actively trying to conceive.

If you’re comfortable with it, maybe you can shift to a “we occasionally have sex without birth control and if it happens it happens” mentality.

But, if that’s not ok for you and you’ve decided that kids are just not in the picture, that’s perfectly ok, but you need to have a discussion about it (and I would bring up the frustrations you have with his lack of trying, but so it in as calm and unemotional a way as possible)

Ok then date him. I dont know what else to tell you. You seem to be looking for validation rather than advice. .

Who cares? If they dont understand ‘he is aggressively flirting with me after i asked him to stop’ then they arent friends.

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Good communication, love, support, he really is a gentlemen, would bend his back and do anything for me, I feel like he treated me like a queen. tbh everything that I have been looking for in a guy. I know 10 years is huge and it was something I was hesitant also in the beginning, I had the mindset of love has no age and we gave it a try.

None of this answers the questions Why are you still with this abusive asshole?

We don’t care why the abusive asshole is an abusive asshole because at the end of the day he’s an abusive asshole. Therapy isn’t working for him. Either he’s a great actor in sessions or his therapist sucks.

So… why are you still with this abusive asshole?

They don’t.

OP does not want to.

There is nothing to fix.

The father can want a relationship all he wants. I want an infinite bank account. We all want things.

BUT I cannot go out and demand others money, or decided that all money on earth is mine. I can want that, but I would have to trample others to get it. Now people could decided to give me all their money, and that would be sweet! But unreasonable, because I didn’t earn it.

I’m the dad. The relationship with the son is the money. His father is not entitled to a relationship with him.

Just by virtue of ej*culating in other person once X number of years ago, does not entitle you to the time, energy, or relationship with that person once they reach adulthood. If your child decides they don’t want to have a relationship with you, NO MATTER THE LEVEL OF EVOLVEMENT GROWING UP OR HOW GOOD/BAD YOU THINK YOU WERE AS A PARENT ;then they just don’t, and there’s absolutely nothing you can do about that.

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I think you should block her. If she’s serious about this she can start the court process to order a DNA test. This is not something to discuss because without a dna test even she may not know who the father of the child really is.

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I can walk down to the local gas station right now and grab some flowers and snacks. Doesn't mean jack shit.

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Wow. So let me get this straight.

This man made you feel lower than dirt. You changed yourself for him. Now he's upset that you're trying to get revenge in him. Do I have that right?

Why the actual fuck are you with someone who talked to you like this and treated you like this?

I'm not saying it's bad that you lost weight. Losing 100lbs is a huge deal. Congratulations. But this whole man is a red flag parade, and you feeling the need to get back at him shows you still hold resentment toward him.

Do you think this is a healthy dynamic? Bc it's not.

And then he threatened you. "If you're doing this to get back at me you won't like how this ends." Oh so he could chase other girls, fap in bed to them, flirt with them online, message ex girlfriends, refuse to touch you, verbally abuse you, but you posted sexy pics online - the exact same thing he was getting off to - and suddenly it's not OK??

I don't even expect you to see how hypocritical and disgusting this is. One thing I learned is that people get on here expecting advice to fix broken situations that they refuse to leave. And that's their choice. I won't advise against it.

Instead I'm gonna go hug my bf and tell him I love him. He would never talk to me or treat me like this.

I know my worth. OP you need to find yours.

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What I read here was: he doesn't smoke anymore, except for when he smokes. And he wants to start smoking more.