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Rationally, you both know you shouldn’t sleep together. Emotionally/physically you both aren’t quite as sure about it.

Maybe it’s time to set some healthy boundaries - for instance “if either one of us has been drinking we probably shouldn’t sleep in the same bed”.

Thank you for this. I had never thought of it like this and he has never sexually assaulted me, but I think this puts it into perspective. Thank you

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It is easy to just keep friendzoning him but it is hard to ignore his love for me or him flirting.

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I didn't like it before, I tried blocking him but he found a way around it and apologized for his stalker like behavior. He could not understand why I did not like his attention and said he just loves me and wants to be there for me.

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I am asking advice because I can. I am not going to block him because he was there for me countless times when I least expected it, and showed me that he can be a great guy in NY life despite his shortcoming that he has no control over. I want to be with him, but I am concerned about him wanting something more.

He likes my energy, vibe, goals, pictures, being with me, my values, emotionally supporting me, seeing me, hearing about my life, being there for special moments, and that we share the same birthday. I do not think it is a forced connection. Him and I are ready for the same things because our faith pushes for us to marry fast and have kids young, which I know he's eager to do since he made it clear that we share that as a value. He does not see me as too old, because I am not, but I see him as too young. Guys his age are a huge turn off and I thought he was like that too until he showed me who his and what he wants to be for me.

The both of you need to seek therapy if you aren't already. You guys aren't able to support each other in a healthy way if you make a deal about "one ciggy and one cut".

That's up to You to decide, it's your relationship

But you're allowing him to by responding. You obviously like it or youd block him and ignore him.

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I think it shows the opposite. Having the same birthday doesn’t equate to a connection. That’s him forcing a connection over something that has nothing to do with you as a person. Essentially he is saying you are compatible because you are the same astrology sign, that’s childish. Does he also like your “energy” and “vibe”? There is no depth to these things. You are too old for him, he isn’t ready for all the things you are ready for.

He validated it not me. He would tell me it's just a number whenever I would try to write him off or hint that I want to friend zone him because he is younger. Him being younger makes things harder, but he enjoys that I am older. I don't think it is wrong, I just think he shouldn't be flirting with me.

Her moving back in is definitely out of the question for the foreseeable, I’m not completely against giving the relationship another go however.

Youre allowing this to happen. Why are you even asking for advice? Block him and move on if you dont want to be with him. If you want to be with him, do it and stop asking for validation.

Yes, people will go back to a relationship, not for love but for security, money, stability. You don't have to let her come back. If you want to test the waters with her, try dating for awhile, 6 months or longer before moving her back in.

Your husband thinks you are a piece of meat he gets to pass around to his friends for his, and their, pleasure. Is is this also how you see yourself? How you answer this will help you determine next steps.

Yes we are interested in the very least spending more time together. That is easy. My questions are then what? Why are we sending time together anyway ? A lot of people say that guys use their mission to find a wife, especially if they grew close to a certain lady. That lady would be me, but I always thought that a younger guy would never be good enough.