Its not ageist lol hes barely out of his teens!! Youre over 30. Youre just trying to validate something you know is wrong

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Nope nope nope nope nope don’t ever say that. Because the context behind it is that for some reason, you still a) know how your ex feels and b) value their opinion. Definitely not something you want to bring into a new relationship, but are you sure you’re ready?

If you're both interested in each other then why not, better to regret doing something then living the rest of your life regretting not doing something .

You deserve so much better. The fact that he only showed remorse after he got caught and punished seems really disingenuous. I would talk to him about maybe only staying friends, and even that is waaaaay too generous for him.

It's great that you have too much pride for dealing with his cheating ways. If he really loved you or cared about you, he wouldn't have cheated on you.

What to do?

First decide whether you can live your life tied to a cheater.

Second: proceed according to first decision

Can friends date though? Meaning we can be friends but do couple things like go to dinner, see a movie, do fun activities together, comfort and support each other, and whatever else we feel like doing together. People never gave us weird looks because I look really young and he presents as older. He couldn't believe me when I told him my age and would say I look so pretty, youthful, and his age anytime I reminded him of my life experiences.

Go to the proctologist, get your anal tear checked out. Give him the bill. Show him the reality of the consequences of his unreasonable fantasy.

Can't hurt to try and date then, just be aware that people will give you both looks and judge you both

I would caution you about getting back together with him. He has shown you who he is, the question is, do you believe him?

I don't think we had sex, she was wearing pyjamas when I came to.

No I'm 100% she wouldn't want more. She flirts when drunk but when we're both sober we have discussed in length that we both want different things (re: kids)

He's tried to contact hee and ask for proof of the child even existing. He asked for a picture of a birth certificate and a picture of her holding thr child. No response yet.

Some people make really great friends - and terrible partners. He's 30. Chances are its pretty set in stone at this point. This is who and what he is. Non-commital. He had a go at being monogomous and it took him all of a few seconds to start fucking around. What he wants is a stable partner, who will turn a blind eye to his nonsense. He tried you out. You didn't like it. One things for certain though, he might like you a whole lot, but that man does not love you.

Are you kidding? After all this, you're worried about whether you should apologize? Please, just end this misery.

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Yes we are, weirdly we discussed how important that is because we have a shared faith. We really bonded over that.

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Tell your husband the ring was mailed back, but you don’t want to revisit the trauma of what happened. So you want to sell the ring at a pawn shop and donate the money to a domestic violence shelter. Hold firm that you do not want to revisit what happened, you do not want reminders of it like the ring, and you do not want to work to find the person who did it, you don’t want to waste anymore time of your life on what happened years ago. If he has trouble accepting this, schedule couples therapy asap. It’s your trauma, only you get to decide how best to process it and move forward. I’m so sorry this happened to you.

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In terms of kids, career, settling down, marriage etc ..

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He did ask for proof of birth certificate and her holding thr child, but no response yet.