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Reply to [38M] [31F] I feel weird after my girlfriend stayed out after I went home sick on new years eve by [deleted]

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Reply to (28M) (25F) does she miss me or just the security? by Sitdown_comedian95

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  • No referencing hateful subreddits and/or their rhetoric. Examples include, but is not limited to: red/blue/black/purplepill, PUA, FDS, MGTOW, etc. This includes, but is not limited to, referring to people as alpha/beta, calling yourself or users "friend-zoned", referring to people as Chads, Tyrones, or Staceys, pick-me's, or pornsick. Any infractions of this rule will result in a ban. This is not an all-inclusive list.

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ThrowRAnjfkaehteai t1_j2dh99f wrote

Reply to comment by Rip_Dirtbag in [26F][26M]How should I tell (or should I at all) my severely depressed bf that I'm seeing someone else[20M] now? by [deleted]

Yes our relationship has been as good as dead for a couple of years but he still wanted me to stay at least until he tried to better himself, which he is now. I wish I had broken up with him way sooner. Now it's too late. I don't want him to die

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UKNZ007Tubbs t1_j2dh711 wrote

Reply to [25F][26F] My gf & I got into a fight about one of her guy friends that likes her. by Mysterious-Pitch-958

You have 2 options

  1. You leave.

  2. You trust your GF.

From your post your GF hasn’t done anything to warrant any mistrust, in fact she seems to be doing everything perfectly. If she does do something to break the trust, then well option 1 is always there.

The only thing you really can do other than state again that you are uncomfortable with the situation, is to tell her that when he does something she doesn’t like, to not come to you to vent if she doesn’t want to hear ‘I told you so’ - yes this is petty, but you have told her, and while she has done everything right, and keeps telling him that she is in a relationship with you, he keeps trying. Sooner or later he is going to try something she doesn’t like.

Caveat to the ‘I told you so’ is if what he tries is assault, then you are in your GFs corner 100%. You do not say anything, do anything, or think anything that even hints that you are thinking about saying it.

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Fit-Ad985 t1_j2dh3oq wrote

Reply to [35F] [33M] cheating spouse keeps telling me I’m a “good mother” and it bugs me, but I understand why. by georgie3452

He’s probably telling you that you’re a good mom bc you associate a good parent household with two married parents and therefore he’s basically manipulating you into thinking well i’m a good mom so i should be married.

please know that you are a good mom no matter what and you are still young and can definitely re marry with a guy that won’t cheat on you. The issues you described (of him feeling like you aren’t the same) will only get worse with time as you mature as a mother and he doesn’t mature out of a childless man mentality. A divorced household with happy individual parents is much better then a married household with miserable parents

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ContentedRecluse t1_j2dgy1d wrote

Reply to [21M][20F] Ex texted me after 2 years saying she's pregnant by ThrowRaConfusedAF090

It sounds like he has no proof a child exists. I would ask for a copy of the birth certificate. Then I would check to see if the birth certificate was recorded with vital records/dept of health. Make sure the dates line up and that the one sent to you has not been doctored.

If everything lines up then you need to get a dna test. If in the U.S. she can sign up for child support and you may get one for free, or you can pay for one on your own. Do not sign or agree to anything without an attorney.

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ChocolateChouxCream t1_j2dgwme wrote

Reply to [25F] [27M] Am i too demanding/mothering to my bf of 2 years? I am tired and anxious by No_Wrangler4414

Personally, I think you're putting too much pressure on him. You mention he does chores, and has a job (since he makes money?) So how are you needing to mother him? Seems like what you're demanding all the time is just expressions of love in the way that you want. To be honest I think it's useless to try to change someone.

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monkeywig11 t1_j2dgm6r wrote

Reply to comment by Rip_Dirtbag in [19F] [22M] 4 months into the relationship I want him to be more into my physical appearance by [deleted]

Nah she’s just 19 give her a break. OP yes your hot.

Talk to your BF about your needs. If he changes, it was just blind stupidity because 22 year old guys are dumb as fuck. If he doesn’t, time to move on. I think my wife’s the most beautiful woman in the world no matter weight, after having kids, no makeup, etc. your young. Don’t strive for anything less than that.

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