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Psi_Boy t1_j2d9l8x wrote

Reply to (21F) (34M) I’m beginning to realize how weird our relationship is. by [deleted]

This post reads really bizarrely. First, it's important to point out that he's not "preying" on younger women. As long as they're over 18 they're consenting adults in a consensual relationship with another adult. Second, you set you limit at 30 but you were attracted to this guy and a consenting participant in the relationship. It's so weird that you judge him for that but not yourself in the same way. From what you say, he's a good boyfriend too. So where's the "preying?" It just seems so needless judgemental when you consented to this relationship and haven't stated that you feel like he coerced or forced you into anything but that he somehow "preys" on adult women.

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TheMocking-Bird t1_j2d92o3 wrote

Reply to [23M] [57M] My father refuses to accept I don't want a relationship with him. How do I end it for good? by BringbackDreamBars

I'd change my number first before doing something like this. If you're careful with who you give it out to, then he shouldn't be able to find it. Short of that, you could potentially go to court and make this official since it's basically harassment. Reaching out and insulting him to get away is still contact, and may just encourage him to keep trying.

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borkenschnorke t1_j2d8psg wrote

Reply to [21M] [21F] What should I do? by Top_Eagle2812

Dating is not about figuring out how to behave to get the other person to like you. Sooner or later your true feelings and values will come out anyways. Dating is about finding a person that you are compatible with and has the same values.

So you dislike her going completely silent for over a week. Not even a text now and then or a call every few days. Its totally viable and understandable that you dislike that. Now its not about changing your own character to accomodate her. It is about telling her that you dislike this behavior and then you can find a compromise or you walk away.

You say she knows you will always be there for her. If she knows you are simping she has no respect for you anyways. She thinks she is the price and you are lucky to have her maybe.

So my honest advice here is. Have some selfrespect and either tell her that this bevior is not okay and if she keeps behaving that way or, even better, just walk away. If it is like that after 4 months then this relationship is going down the drains eventually anyways. You can now go out of it, having learned a valuable life lessen and get a more suitable woman for the next or you let her trample your ego for a while longer until she dumps you for the next best guy when she gets bored of you.

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