You sound like a misogynistic asshat, and they sound like a psycho manipulator...

Cut them off and reflect on why you said what you said.

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That is a strong response to some other guy's crush blocking him. I think reflecting on why you made this declaration about "all women" would be a valuable chance to grow, whether or not you want to continue being friends with this person.

In deciding whether you want to keep being friends, I think you need to ask her for clarification. Does this person mean they would never forgive you or that they would not forgive right away and would need to rebuild trust? I ask because you mentioned her saying she would not forgive but that y'all could move on.

It is one thing if moving on and being on your best behavior means it would take time to reassure her that you are a safe friend she can trust. Men who show anger when women deny them attention are scary. I'm not saying you are a danger, but it might take time for her to trust you again.

It is another thing if she means she will always hold a grudge but still expect best behavior from you. You don't have to stay indebted. You can still grow from this, but move forward without her and make new friends.

ETA: I re-read your post. She said she would hold a grudge forever? If this is a friendship you would like to save, I think it would still be worth asking for clarification once everyone has had a chance to cool down. But you don't have to try to hold onto the friendship if you don't want to.

They're right.

I am innocent until proven guilty, and there is no proof to be found because no laws were broken. Like I said, not really interested in the legal side of things. Just want opinions on whether this is forgivable

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You can forgive him if you want, but that does not mean forget it. Do not stay. Love yourself more than he says he loves you. One strike your out. There is no rule that says people get a second strike. I know that you are confused. You will continue to be confused. But be confused alone, or with people who truly have your back and are not trying to get you to stay’ because everyone makes mistakes, he really loves you, he didn’t mean it, etc.If you stay, you will forever have the nagging voice that you do not have the respect for yourself. And you will never have respect for him again. But the fact is you will be sad and angry for not respecting yourself. Believe me Sister. I have your back. You are one of the first people that I have encountered here who is looking for validation in leaving. You know what you have to do. You do it! Pretend you are stronger than you feel and it will propel you forward. Forward is strength 🦋🦋🤘🤘🤘

Once that slap happened, you should've left. That mess isn't allowed in any relationship unless it's consensual within the realms of BDSM. Even then, that's a stretch.

Tell her.

It’s only been months and I can guarantee you they slept together that night.

Actions speak louder than words. You say you’d like to do those couple type things but your actions said otherwise.

Quite seriously I wonder if he isn't a closet homo sexual and using every thing else as an excuse. Some thing just seems off. You don't say how his mother acts toward you.

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Got it. Could you elaborate on what her 'toxic dependancy' is? As far as I can see, she finally got some sort of glimpse of how things could be outside of her toxic environment, and even though it's obviously cheating, I don't see what makes her toxic besides that.

Definitely agree on the mental help. Don't know how I could suggest something like that to her though.

Buddy, are you 100% sure she’s awake during the entire time? I have masturbated while asleep and I’d wake up right when I orgasm.

Technically, I’m having sex dreams that get so real that I end up masturbating as I’m dreaming. I don’t know how long I last doing this while asleep, but my husband says I tend to slow down, then go faster, and slow and can definitely go on for a bit. The first time it happened, right when I finished my husband something like “gosh, that was awesome” and I was completely confused, embarrassed, and had no idea what to say. I got also a bit worried he was going to start asking who I was dreaming with and things like that because honestly I didn’t even remember.

But one thing I can tell you, if I’m awake I won’t spend hours masturbating. When I masturbate, it’s usually because I’m lazy but horny, so I just want to get off quick. To spend hours at it, I’ll wake up my husband

I’m not saying, it’s not possible she’s lying about it. She can be lying about it and doing it while awake, but she can also be doing it while asleep.

is this post actually real? if so this is completely insane.

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Can you prove that beyond any shadow of doubt that police are going to say “ok, this is a clear case of false accusations”? Because if you can’t prove it categorically, and things go bad, you’re in danger! The likelihood is slim that she would do this, but it’s there.

Like I said normally I would say leave.

Leave! It’s never just once. I know some people will say you guys were drinking and it’s the first time so give it a try, but do not. If you forgive him, he will tell himself it clearly wasn’t a big deal/issue to you and will lay his hands on you again. The more it happens, the harder it will be to leave. Get out now while you still can.

The child thing I disagree with, but I agree with not meddling in other people's relationships. I'm honestly ashamed of that, but it just happened. Because of my Autism I don't tend to click with women my age, which makes dating hard. I also had a bad experience in the past with a woman, putting me in a deep depression and with a heap of trust issues, especially against women. She is the first I finally feel at ease with. I'm being very careful of potential toxicity.

Thanks for your opinion though. Appreciate it.

Wrong. Slapping someone for talking to an ex is abusive. Drinking is no excuse. She needs to leave him now, or it will only get worse.

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Leave him. Once is enough whether you’re drunk or not. If you’re adult to drink you are adult to control your actions