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theoway1945 OP t1_j2c253g wrote

Reply to comment by melasuarus in [25f][36m] can I save my marriage? by theoway1945

I am so happy that you got out and I hope you're thriving now.

I want to play games with my son and be silly. I want to live in a home that I can clean only once a day and not have to clean up after my husband every second. I would like to have some friends to text a happy new year message to. I'd like to be looking forward to a year of happy days.

You're right, that's not going to happen if I don't start working towards getting out of here. Thank you so much

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Els236 t1_j2c0xxc wrote

Reply to [24F][25M] My Fiancé denies masturbating after being woken up by it by hypeb1337

So, she gets pissed off at you when you masturbate and you never do it in the bed, but it's absolutely fine for her to be doing some late-night fiddling and diddling in the bed, while also knowing full well you can hear and see it?

Then she denies the fuck out of it and basically makes you think you're going crazy?

Either this woman has some severe mental issues and/or shame, or she's just being an ass.

If you're "split up for the time being", make it permanent honestly. Such shameless lying and gaslighting would make me question nearly everything she ever said after that and a relationship cannot work with no trust.

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[deleted] OP t1_j2c0mq0 wrote

Reply to comment by Stunning_Appeal_2343 in [30F][35M] thinking I was tricked into this marriage by [deleted]

You shouldn't have to dip into your savings at all to pay for household expenses and necessities for your SHARED child! That's ridiculous. When one person is a SAHP, the money the breadwinner earns is family money. Someone who loves and respects you would not be watching you drown while he hoards his paycheck. It doesn't matter what your mom and sister think about your financial situation, this isn't about money but partnership. Your husband clearly does not see you as a partner.

> at the same time, he is not abusive

Is this really where the bar is? "Not abusive"? I personally think that threatening to make your life a living hell if you leave IS abusive, and the money situation certainly sounds like pretty cut-and-dry financial abuse, but even if he weren't strictly abusive, don't you think you deserve a bit more than that?

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HumanMycologist5795 t1_j2c0ldg wrote

Reply to [19 M] [20 F] I am seeing this person in a completely different light after they icked me out. by [deleted]

Without knowing the context of what was said or the seriousness of it, I think you are correct, especially because of the grudge, best behavior, and them admitting to their toxic trait, as well as saying they wont change. As they said, what they said at the end being direct with you, you have to be direct with them, and I can only see bad things happening and you walking on egg shells with this person.

Edit: You are young and will meet many other wonderful people who don't act that way.

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