Yes!!! I remember the other post. I swear there are writers that just like to make up fan fiction for this thread. Lol

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First things first, your GF did you wrong, she betrayed you on every level a human being can betray a person and SHE needs to make this right.

The first thing she can do to make it right is to take herself out of the situation she is in. What is to stop Jake from telling her to bend over his desk "or else" pick up that pen "or else" meet me at X place "or else" she has a sword at her neck and she isn't doing anything to remove it. She needs to quit her job and find something else that takes her away from his control. The other thing she needs to do is compile a file of everything that has happened as a safety net against jake in case he tries something dirty. "if you don't leave me alone then your wife gets it all and so does HR!"

Then after that, both of you need to get yourselves into therapy, individual and couples if you want any hope of getting past this. it will take time, it will take consistent behaviour on her part and what ever you need from her, unlimited access to her phone and social media, a tracker app on her phone and a gps in her car (she must not know or she could take evasive actions) continued therapy for both of you, etc.

Maybe after that you will decide you can't do it, you tried and you just can't, maybe you will see that slowly you can get back to what you where before. who knows. but you can't get anywhere if she is still working with the guy she cheated on you with, especially if said guy has power over her and can get her to sleep with him again if he threatens her job safety or a promotion.

Good luck op, I don't envy you. Maybe spend a few nights at a hotel to clear your head and take the time you need to think, just don't drink yourself stupid, you can't think if you get drunk.

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This is weird. Cut your losses. Life is too short to stuff it full of unyielding folks.

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Don't go into a relationship expecting someone to change.

You take them as they are. If you don't like them 6 months in, you're never going to.

Find someone that's more compatible.

I really want to ask my mom and sister about this but they always side with him… I feel because “they know” I have good savings they will “assume its ok for now while the money runs out” but I cant run out of money… I need cash flow for my business… he does know what I do and he knows why I am in the whole this year. Edit: he pays for rent. I have to pay utilities and my car, and I am the one who buys the baby things (he only bought 2 items out of the 140 we needed) I feel played… but at the same time, he is not abusive… at least not that I can realize But then again, Ive been abused so much maybe I dont even see it anymore?

I dont know

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> He is a good man, but he is allowing me to go into debt, and just fail financially.

> he will make my life a living hell

This...is not a good man.

You're married with a child but have to ask him for money for household bills? You're a SAHM but he leaves you with no access to finances and thinks you have "no needs"? He "assumes" you're making money? How does he not know anything about your business?

This marriage sounds extremely dysfunctional to me. You said it yourself, your life would be easier if you were single. It's laughable that he thinks he can get full custody when you're the primary parent. That's not how it works. Talk to a divorce lawyer and free yourself of this awful dude.

There must be some help for addicted gamers similar to alcohol anonymous . Or there should be . I think that much gaming is making him depressed .

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Oh this hurts. I was that 19 yr old once. This is almost identical except I got to leave easily because i didn't have a child with him. This doesn't matter. Leave him. Lean on friends and family. There is so much more to life than this and you are at a great age to press the reset button. I did and it turned out better than i ever could have imagined. Don't wait. How do you want next years new years eve to look?

I have nothing polite to say about this situation and am trying real hard not to say something so incendiary it's ban-worthy. It sounds like this msn does not respect you or your time or work, on any issue, and is telling you that. If he wants custody he should try proving he can handle any amount of responsible interaction. I'd suggest taking notes and recording your attempts to get him following through. Tell him you are doing so but do not allow him any access to your records. This will be important for the court case. Perhaps email copies to your sister. If he is not afraid of court, take him to civil court and tell a jury he would rather pay a stranger to take care of his kids than support their mother. He is counting on you feeling too intimidated to follow through on any threats, but you know you deserve better than being used for free labor and deprived of your independence and being treated this way.

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Are you going to be with dad on NYE? Do you wish your boyfriend stayed with you and dad?

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How did they abuse you as an adult ?

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