ANY contact with them will be viewed by them as an open door for "normal" relations again. They will totally ignore your boundaries or requirements. In your shoes, I would not respond and block any further attempts at contact.

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Just tell her, "This is Bullsheet."

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Couples therapy can be a good place to discuss finances so you can have some backup and somebody to keep him accountable.

But frankly sitting down and telling him how close you are to divorce over this issues doesn't get his head out of his ass then nothing probably will.

Prayers up! 🙏

WAIT!! Someone please find the post a couple months ago from the woman’s pov where she is not doing this an her partner is gaslighting her…

It was posted maybe 2 or 3 months ago on this subreddit

yeah he wants you to have no money

Don't let her continue thus gaslighting.. i was in a 20-year marriage that I constantly thought I was going nuts. It's called the covert narcissist... they aren't out right nar5 thet are i In the down low narcissist... walk a way or you be in a rotten relationship for years

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Or maybe she’s sleepjerking

some people get off on humiliation or the idea of others being disgusted by their actions which means sometimes they unfortunately post these things on inappropriate places to get their rocks off

8 years and she still won't admit to masturbating (5x later with spell correct labeling it "master bathroom") is kinda strange and her literally lying to your face after you watched her for 10 min.

I'd just pack up and leave and just tell her you aren't leaving.

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Ohhhhhh that makes so much sense. Idk how I didn’t think of it… but also, isn’t that what whatpad is for? 😂

Gosh, I haven't even ever considered that. That's a good idea. Thank you

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You are only 25, leave him and get your life together. Continue your studies if you havent.

Hours? No way. There are other subreddits you can post these stories to.

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You’re right.

Thank you, I may just do that. I’m just so used to doing everything with him. But I need to learn to be independent again and find my confidence. I really appreciate your time and help.