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TattooPuddle t1_j2bny6n wrote

Reply to [25f][36m] can I save my marriage? by theoway1945

30 year old with a 19 year old was already a giant red flag. Then he spent your money and left you entirely reliant on him. I'm sorry, you've been taken advantage of. There's a reason he was looking to date someone much younger.

Don't buy into the sunk cost fallacy. Doesn't matter how much time you put into it, he clearly doesn't give a fuck and wanted a hot baby sitter for his kids, not an equal partner.

Leave and never look back. Reach out to friends and family for help.

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Murky_Anxiety4884 t1_j2bkzby wrote

Reply to (36M) (40F) How to gauge if things can be more than platonic? by codyfranson

You can invite her for a one-to-one chat, maybe over coffee, in connection with one of these meetings. You steer the conversation towards relationships to see what, if anything, she says about her status. You see how she responds to harmless compliments, to meaningful glances, and to opportunities to touch you. That sort of thing.

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ontheotherside_throw t1_j2bjhai wrote

Reply to [65M] [65F] [40M] Abusive father and mother won't stop reaching out to me. Should I text them back? by ThrowRArandomnumberz

You know that saying "don't negotiate with terrorists?"

Your parents are emotional (and sometimes physically) terrorists. Don't negotiate with them. You aren't going to see the change in them you want. They will never be the people you wish they would. You deserve better, but they aren't going to ever be the parents you deserve.

Block them. Stop letting them into your headspace. If they make a real change in their lives, don't worry, you'll find out one way or another.

And if you don't have a therapist, get one ASAP. You still have a lot of healing to do. I'm sorry you are going through this.

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Someday_wonderful t1_j2bhyem wrote

Reply to [24F][25M] My Fiancé denies masturbating after being woken up by it by hypeb1337

You said she is denying likely to shame. So why not accept she doesn’t want to talk or open up about it and do try doing some pre marital therapy to get her to open up… it’s obvious you’re feeling strongly but do see there are likely reasons for her denial… if you’re serious enough about it to consider throwing away an 8 year relationship then take some steps to salvage first

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