You are opening a door that needs to stay shut for your own mental health.

You cannot persuade or negotiate with people who do not acknowledge that they did anything wrong.

What you can do is protect yourself, do not open the cards, throw them away or get someone to do it for you.

I feel that you are still somewhat in denial about how you have been effected by their behaviour, you can see it wasn't right and that adults screaming in your face is wrong, but on one level you are normalising or somewhat downplaying because you survived it.

There is no one judging how bad or what level of abuse you received and how you should react or have been effected by it. Everyones experience of growing up is different and how you survive and continue to live through it is your own journey.

You want parents that love you, but sadly we don't get to choose the parents we are given and some people are not capable of being the parents we would like. They are also people who do not accept that they did anything wrong and therapy will help you accept that you have no power to change anything they do or say. Your request won't change anything, it will only bring you more pain.

One day you will have more control, your blocking them competely will show that you are serious. If eventually they accept that the relationship is only on your terms then maybe their is a chance they will listen to you, but I would expect that to happen any time soon.

In the meantime work on your boundaries is useful boundaries and good practice for everything in life. Often abused people don't have good boundaries as they were never taught that they could have them.

I have experience emotional neglect and wished to have parents that showed love, but sadly what I wanted and what they were capable of just wasn't possible. Therapy over several years helped a lot for me to move on from anger, denial and grief over what might have been. They continued to behave the same way in respect of grandchildren and that was the catalyst for therapy. I set my own boundaries and maintained the relationship I could handle not the other way round.

Whatever you decide please take care of yourself.

Always bear in mind that anything you transmit digitally could end up all over the place. So if you have some kind of sensitive job, specifically working with kids, you don't want your face to be seen in any of these nudes. Doing nudity over vid chat is statistically safer than sending pics.

100% that’s what it is. She needs that excitement to get off. If she admits it to him it will ruin the fantasy. She will not stop this. It could be a hot role play for them adding some kink play for her getting caught. They need to get on the same page.

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Get him gag gifts from now on because he's a joke

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Thanks you. I will keep this in mind before I start losing my mind over it.

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take this as a hint and get him low effort, cheap gifts from this point on. he clearly doesn’t put in the same amount of effort or money as u do

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thank you. I think I will wait a little longer and if there’s still nothing by like 4:30 or 5 today then i will do this. 🫡 prayers up

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So she masturbates ALL night until it was light outside?? That seems weird.

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I thought sod it, I’ve sent him 2. I believe they are sfw.

He has said that, did you read the whole thing? He has trued to discuss it with her, let her know it's something he likes too, he's spoken to her, assured her, everything but she keeps denying and lying and gaslighting him, that's the problem .

If you aren't ready for a relationship then why did you want him to fall for you? Even your premise is unclear.

It's the holidays, she might be busy.

If she doesn't reach out by tomorrow by a reasonable time before the date, Then you got your answer. Until then, be patient and have a little faith.

Based in the info above, you wouldn’t be out of line or seem desperate if you just shoot her another text saying, “Hey…just checking in to confirm for Saturday. Give me a call or shoot me a text. Thanks.” After that, all you can do is wait. If you don’t hear from her soon…make other plans and chalk it up to being saved from a potentially bad relationship.

The issue is the lies. If she lies about something like this, what else is she willing to lie about to the expense of that guys health or well-being? That is the problem here, not her playing with herself.

yeah sorry 5PM. I was gonna pick her up saturday at 7

Love Potion Number 9

So it could be a few things

1. Very vivid sex dreams, I used to get them constantly.

2. She's so ashamed about it because of her upbringing that she's afraid you'll look at her differently - this I doubt because she should feel safe enough with you to know you wouldn't judge her

3. She's being a hypocrite and trying to control how/ when you orgasm. But won't give you the same respect.

4. She likes being able to cause you to think you're going crazy