I live in new haven, my older brother lives in Durham. He came to visit recently. His two big takeaways were 1. Everything is waaaaay more expensive in CT (not so much rent/bills/mortgages cuz those are actually pretty similar between the two cities, he’s talking more like food and recreation) and 2. He likes the people in new haven way more than Durham. He thinks people in Durham are boring and stuck up. He also thought people in new haven are much more accessible, like you can meet a big time politico drinking at a bar downtown and strike up a convo and become friends up here. He said that kinda stuff doesn’t happen down there. The whole duke/yale thing is very similar, but I think the big difference is you’ll meet lots of 30-something’s who are graduate students and work for Yale who are cool and down to earth, whereas my brother says most people involved in duke are stuck up and boring. Long story short, I think if you’ve lived in Durham, new haven will seem pretty familiar and easily adaptable to, and there’s a good chance you will prolly like it better.

Though I can't compare the two cities directly as I haven't lived in NH or Durham, I did live in NC for some years and currently live in CT and find the vibe of the towns and cities to be shockingly similar. My wife is a Hickory native and makes this comment herself, too. New Haven is definitely a great place to live if you want access to the rest of New England, though! You can take 95 all the way down to NYC or up to Maine. There's also a direct Metro North train to Grand Central from NH's Union Station, I believe, as well as Amtrak service to Penn Station. Certain areas can be sketchy (from my POV as an outsider but honestly, this is most cities) but I worked for a woman who lived there and is a photographer, and she loved it

unfortunately this normal green behavior. sorry you experienced this though!!

Hey! Are you still looking for a ticket? I have one but can't use it.

Around the green is so much worse than anywhere else I've ever been. Its a real shame.

You can make an appointment online

Sadly the city and state allow drug addicts and severely mentally to hang out around the green. It’s honestly a real drag on New Haven

Yeah my guess is mental illness, someone off their meds, having a bad time of it. I realize it's probably unnerving, but you are almost certainly as safe as you ever are. That's a very public area and so you are probably safer there than a quieter street even if it seems like it may be the opposite. Try not to judge the people around the Green too harshly. Most of them are just there waiting for a bus and don't have a choice but to hang out in the area, but the bus stop also attracts a small percentage of people with mental health issues (or drug dependency issues) who have no where else to go.

Keep alert, but also don't look or act "sketched out" because people will understandably take offense to that. If something DOES start to go down, I feel like strangers step in to help where they can more than you might expect.

I’ve had a random drugged out psycho follow me and my GF to our car after hanging at Bar a couple years ago… tried talking him down the whole time, then he punched me full force right in the temple. I didn’t fall down, told him to fuck off or I’d lay him out, and he went away… after trying to get us to run over his head with our car.

Yea there’s some violently mentally ill people on the streets.

Holy shit I can only imagine lol

Lots of schizophrenia from what I hear.

Not specifically Subaru, but Mike's Automotive in North Haven does great work and is reasonably priced.

I’ve never owned a Subaru but my friend who always owned them loved this place.

Edit: my friend is also a mechanic himself, if that helps.

I called the one in Branford four times for an appointment and gave up. Doing some minor things in my driveway but If you find one you like please update.

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Thanks everyone for your advice and accounts of the issues plaguing MSOE! I’ll definitely have to reconsider the daycare situation. Any advice for someone looking for daycare for a child who’ll be about 1 year old when enrolling?

I second this, love Tech Auto

I took both of my Subarus to Tech Auto in Hamden for years. They're not specifically a subaru shop but they know what they're doing and they won't rip you off

I work downtown most days and I’ve seen a skinny dude do this before scream and yell at people I’m sure he’s got mental issues …I’ve also seen people piss and shit right on the side of the roads no fucks given down chapel close to state street

I lived in new haven for most of my life and all over the town. This is average especially with the weather getting nicer. My suggestions as a grown ass woman that didn't make it past 5'1. Ignore it, obviously stay vigilant and constantly aware of your surroundings but literally do not give them any attention. I always had a keychain with pepper spray or mace. If it's late at night or you're uncomfortable keys in your fingers brings a small sense of safety. I learned very young very quick the worst thing you can do is to stop and talk to them or acknowledge them at all. Keep on moving and get where you're tryna go

Also around the green there are always people from the courthouses and stores around. If you're walking and someone does that find a fake friend. I've walked up to literal strangers and asked if I could pretend to know them and chat for a minute so someone would bugger off and leave me alone. Living in new haven you'll achieve the wonderful skill of feeling a person out without ever speaking to them. I never felt unsafe anywhere in new haven but I was always hyper aware of my surroundings bc that's what they taught me k-8 in our mandatory street safety classes. I doubt they do that anymore but it stuck with me. Stay safe out there 💚

Maybe he's on a trip from the mayor endorsed tent city.

Thank you for the response!

Normally once the driver opens the door at the green, the automated announcement will say what route it is. (Unless it’s not working) The paper schedule on the bus will also say it on the time table. And most drivers will tell you when you board if you ask. Some can be jerks though and ignore you. But if you get me ( white girl with glasses, piercings and grey hair) I’m super sweet and will definitely help you out!

How can one tell what route a bus transfers into once it gets to the green? I can find schedules online, but none of them tell me transfers/when to stay on the bus for a new route.

I've had a similar experience. I was walking out of Elm City Market and a woman started walking after me screaming and shaking her umbrella at me. I just kept my head down and kept walking, but it did shake me up a little bit.