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Cerulean_IsFancyBlue t1_jeeznlo wrote

Physical contact is part of standard getting and bonding for many humans. The problem is when we either weaponize it (handshake grip contests) or when we, once again, impose the “normative” model on everybody.

I wonder what it would be like if I grew up in a culture where men routinely did the air kiss thing to each other or held hands in public as friends. Would it have changed my attitude towards contact and made me more of a touchy person? Or would my life just be even more uncomfortable than it is now?

Anyway. I like stuff like these bands, because it allows people to set their own boundaries in a way that other people can see and understand. It’s also a reminder that when you are dealing with other people, it’s worth stopping and thinking about those things, even when you’re not in the situation with wristbands. Look for cues. Go slowly.

I don’t think we’re going to change some peoples basic desire for physical contact as part of a greeting. What we can do is, normalize consent and normalize respect.

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deliberatelyawesome t1_jeeyjc8 wrote

I guess I should clarify, it's not common everywhere. In my personal life I never see this.

I saw it more often when delivering to wealthy people, working in some fancy office buildings or commerce centers, and doing some executive protection.

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Karzul t1_jeexfgn wrote

Very interesting. I also have a left/right split where I have more hair growth on the right side of my body than my left side. I wonder if that will also lead to different ageing?

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deliberatelyawesome t1_jeexdwd wrote

Are they just options? Any one of those gets you where you need to be?

Residents can enroll a thumb, contractors are given a card for the day if they need access for maintenance, etc...

That's common-ish. If you actually need all 3 of those to get home that's insane.

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