Was this ever a real thing or just a joke?

I had no idea you could tear up.

Lawdamercy.

can you explain why? you said it hurt. what are the pros?

No, it's not made up. I requested one when I gave birth vaginally, and I would request it again. It did hurt for the first month or two after we resumed sex but it wasn't so painful that it prevented my enjoyment.

My doctor told me it's also called a crown stitch and described it to me before doing it. Instead of just stitching the "right" portion of the vaginal entry at the perineum, the crown stitch also stitches a little of the vaginal wall and brings it up to that "ring." (I don't know the name of the sphincter there.) Maybe I got lucky, but I would not hesitate to do the same thing if I were having a baby again.

Source?

Only one stitch is called that, it's a stitch past the tear where it would have been naturally open. The stitches putting things right where there was tearing are a part of normal health care.

It is not from a husband stitch if that's what you're implying.

That’s only when it’s extra or unnecessary stitches. If you’re unlucky enough to tear or need an episiotomy, trust me, you’ll want the normal stitches.

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I didn't know that was a thing either. I had to get emergency reconstructive surgery as she shredded my vagina as well as tearing my clit. It took months to not be in constant pain. And now I have decreased sensation and difficulty climaxing.

But of course all the MALE doctors I've seen are all "wow I can't even tell you had a baby let alone had that extensive tearing".

I'm so thankful that everyone I worked with at my birth and recovery including all the or staff were women.

Unfortunately, no. Here's an article about it

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I thought it was made up.

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Omg me too! My clit felt like someone had put a cigarette out on it when her head crowned and I ripped at the top. I was fully expecting a tear on the bottom but nope. What an ordeal when the Dr who stitched me up wouldn't use any local anesthetic. I never made a sound when I was in labor or during delivery but I screamed when he began stitching without freezing me first. Did you get sewn back up?

The practice of using suture stitches on the perineum in case of tearing due to childbirth is very ancient: it was already recommended as early as in the XI century by Trotula de Ruggiero, a woman medic from Salerno. I don't know if she was the very first to do that, and if I had to make a guess I'd say no.

Henci Goer's book "Obstetric Myths Versus Research Realities" might be a good place to look for that kind of information.

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The downvotes are probably because you said that a husband stitch would make sex better if it had happened. That’s patently untrue for both parties

I heard from multiple women, that sex is better after baby, not sure what the reason is for this.

We were in the Middle East during this particular birth (Abu Dhabi) but the surgeon literally said out loud, “and one stitch for your husband”. I was ignorant to the concept. It was much later when I realized what he meant. By then it creeped me out.

Anything interesting about tearing up? 18 year old me was not expecting to rip everything upwards with my first so that was fun lol

Could you recommend books that are good for non-historians that deal with daily life in ancient Greece, please?

Like I said — and the downvoters seem to have missed it — this probably didn’t really happen, and if it did, I’m as appalled as you all are.

But, yes, my wife thinks better sex is better. (She credits the deepened emotional bond of sharing parenthood together. Which is totally probably the answer.)