I agree. The hinge system seems to work much better in generating engagement from girls where they'd otherwise be overwhelmed with choice on tinder/bumble etc.

Fourth one would be a huge turn off for me. If she is already bottom of the pile then she would definitely drop off the dates list imo.

OK, but when the same 90% of guys are sending all of their likes to the same 10% of women... those women end up ignoring/ghosting almost all of them.

Having limited likes means you have to think about whether or not you have a chance with someone before shooting your shot.

Number of Canadian bank failures in the last 100 years: 0

Fix your fucking system guys.

Yeah it's been fun but also kind of draining. I'm not used to dating around, I previously just went almost straight into new relationships after a brief "just long enough that new relationship doesn't feel like a rebound" period single so I'm trying to force myself to not do that this time.

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This is rather interesting. It makes all the talk about it failing seem a bit trivial.

All but one date I initiated, one girl messaged me spontaneously to go out that same evening.

I've generally paid for everything, and have taken the initiative to do so so there was no awkwardness around that. I'm personally more comfortable / feels more natural if I'm paying for most of the early dates. Most first dates were just coffee/boba so nothing too expensive either. A few dates were "two things" (dinner + drinks, activity + drinks etc) and all but one girl offered to pay for the second thing after I paid for the first.

Four special cases here:

• The girl who invited me out, we just got boba, I paid.

• One girl on a second date we cooked together, I got the ingredients but she brought a small dessert.

• One girl on the second date offered to split the bill on brunch but I declined (warmly, "oh no don't worry I got it :)" type rather than "no I will pay!" haha) and she got the boba after.

• One girl we got dinner and then went for ice cream for the first date (my plan), I paid for dinner then was kinda expecting her to jump in / offer to get the ice cream but she didn't. The second date we did an activity, got a drink at the bar attached to the activity, and then got dinner (my plan again, dinner was kinda spontaneous). After the activity + drink, I'd spent a total of ~ $120 over the two dates so far, so I expected her to offer to pay for or split dinner but we ended up splitting dinner without explicitly discussing it because the restaurant had one of those "order and pay all on your phone even though you are eating in" ordering systems. It's strange also because she definitely makes the most money, by a significant margin, out of all the girls I've gone out with (experienced software engineer in fintech). If we go on future dates I'll probably suggest free activities. But of the three second dates she's also the person I'm least interested in so might not even bother.

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I’m not, and I’m not sure why! It could be because my hormone receptors were “just barely positive.” That’s a good question for me to ask my doc!

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Triple positive here too! Luckily found super early. I struggled so much explaining to people why my treatment was so ongoing and aggressive. This explains it really well. You’re not on Tamoxifen? I started it but it absolutely wrecked me. Worse that the chemo, utterly horrendous. So I stopped it. So strange to think that 20-30 years ago, triple positive was almost a death sentence, but now there’s so many treatment options and it tends to respond really well.

Triple-positive breast cancer is a type of breast cancer. It has cancer cells that test positive for the following three features:

(1) estrogen receptors (2) progesterone receptors (3) a larger amount of human epidermal growth factor receptor-2 (HER2) protein

Triple positive breast cancer is very aggressive, but because we know three things helping it to grow, we have more weapons available to prohibit its growth.

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Eyeballed it. It was 1am at the time and your complaint was about the vizualization.

Otherwise I would probably take the mean of all wellbeing values and discard anything outside 2.5 sigma. To make the visualization nicer I would probably break it down into several brackets as OP has done, but use box plots instead.

DM me. I have a template I can share, or if you’re not techy I can help you make one.

Makes sense, yeah I feel like this graph looks very different from the woman's side, I'd be interested in seeing something like this for a woman after a month on hinge haha.

Yeah, some weekends were pretty packed, also some dates were just simple coffee dates in the middle of the weekday

So what intro caught your attention?

I'd be curious to see the numbers of how many times did you initiate the request for the date, how many times did you pay for the whole date vs her offering to pay half or the full amount if she asked you out on date, ect.

Source: https://www.ssa.gov/oact/STATS/table4a3.html

Tool: Excel

As a woman, you get so many matches that you start having to come up with crazy criteria to limit them. Because there's just no way you can maintain a conversation with 70 people at the same time. So you start being picky in ways that you wouldn't normally. Looks are almost never important, to me at least. But I will say the one thing I look for is for the guy to send a worthwhile first message. Guys who start a conversation with "hey" or "hello" are unmatched immediately. It just feels lazy and like they're not interested.

Yup. These 'comparisons' are worthless because these types of things are so heavily influenced by regulations.

By way of a similar example, if you looked at anything related to credit cards, almost all of them are based out of Omaha Nebraska or Wilmington Delaware..

I’m really not a fan of the limited likes. This is a numbers game for guys.

That’s a lot of dates in a month!