Recent comments in /f/Maine

MaineGal2022 OP t1_ja0iqul wrote

I have a set of vanity plates with my initials on one car, and a set of Loon (conservation) plates on the other car. Between car purchases and trades, my husband is now driving the car with my initial plates, and the Loon plates are on my car. Is it worth the effort and expense to switch them between the cars (so my initial plates are on my car)? Any idea what this would cost? The initial plates expire/need to be re-registered in June and the Loon plates are due to be re-registered in September. Thanks for any advice.

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seeclick8 t1_ja0hlgs wrote

As a retired 43 year educator (politically and socially liberal) I must agree with the dismissal. Kids have their own “social world.” It should not interact with the “social world”of their teachers. Randomly coming across a staff members TikTok is one thing, but staff should not give it out and encourage kids to view it regardless of the content. On another note, I am still dumbfounded by reports of educators having “relationships “ with their students. These aren’t relationships. It’s abuse. (And it will always come out.). One would think that after the Mary Kay LeTourneau story people would have figured out the issue.

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acfox13 t1_ja0aw8d wrote

All of us can (individually and collectively) actively practice trustworthy, re-humanizing behaviors that build secure attachment; and call out untrustworthy, dehumanizing disconnecting behaviors that undermine secure attachment. Here are the resources I use:

The Trust Triangle

The Anatomy of Trust - marble jar concept and BRAVING acronym

10 definitions of objectifying/dehumanizing behaviors - these erode trust

"Emotional Agility" by Susan David. Endlessly helpful in learning how to grieve and process my emotions.

"NonViolent Communication" by Marshall Rosenberg. This is a compassionate communication framework based on: observations vs. evaluations, needs, feelings, and requests to have needs met. Revolutionary coming from a dysfunctional family and culture of origin.

"Crucial Conversations tools for talking when stakes are high" I use "physical and psychological safety" and "shared pool of meaning" all the time.

"Hold Me Tight" by Sue Johnson. Communication strategies based on adult attachment theory research.

"Never Split the Difference" by Chris Voss. He was the lead FBI hostage negotiator and his tactics work well on setting boundaries with difficult people.

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