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bRad420dankness t1_iydycd5 wrote

But let me propose a ridiculous situation that follows a similar idea. Let's say I'm a vegan and my family wants to go to a bullfighting show or something along those lines to "make memories". Am I an ass for refusing to go because the situation makes me uncomfortable just because other people want me there? If not am I then an ass if I don't want to pose next to the dead bull with my family? It's just a picture after all.

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audioragegarden t1_iydy5ac wrote

I absolutely detest being photographed in any staged manner at events. Family and friends are welcome to take all of the candid photos of me in a natural casual state that they want, but there's no better way to get a guaranteed surly or disinterested expression from me than to interrupt/delay my genuine fun or conversation to take a staged photo for their own "look at our beautiful family" vanity. I'd much rather enjoy photos of my family and friends as they really are/were.

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Smash_Gal t1_iydy4d9 wrote

I think it’s definitely a nuance thing. If you’re uncomfortable having your picture taken, by all means, don’t do it. I know it sucks, but some people just…are struggling at times. Maybe there’s an issue of trauma, or even a safety issue if the person in question used to be stalked and a lot of pictures today end up on social media. But, you are still a permanent fixture in the lives of others, and your presence and love means something to people. If you don’t want to have your picture taken - is there something else you could leave behind?

As silly as it is, although I have a lot of photos of my mother, the thing that I oddly cherish the most is an old card that she gave to me when I was a teen struggling with something, and it had a long, heartwarming message about how much she loved me. Her handwriting and her words were important and speaks volumes about what kind of person she was. Likewise - I have no memories of my paternal grandparents. But, I have a baby blanket that was knitted by my paternal grandmother, and a little christmas elf statue with my paternal grandfather’s handwriting wishing a merry christmas on the base. Proof that they were there, and they were loved.

So…yes. Respect people’s consent. But, I implore you, those of you who don’t like your pictures taken: leave something behind to these events. Talk about them, write about them, let people know how much you care about them. It’ll matter a lot to people later.

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lib3ration t1_iydy2v3 wrote

I have to agree with this 120%. My father recently passed away and the few photos that I do have of him are just from the past couple of years with my daughter. During the religious ceremony we did we had maybe 7 decent quality photos to choose from.

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Silver_Narwhal_1130 t1_iydxl7p wrote

Obviously this post is not saying you have to do this. No one can force you to take a picture (at least if they love you). It’s just a call to consider the people you love and how they might want to remember you. That’s why it’s called a tip not a demand. If you don’t want any record of your existence for people to maybe have some fond memories with a physical manifestation, then don’t take pictures. But at least consider it. A picture is short. Life is short. And whatever problem you have with pictures is either not a big deal in the grand scheme or you should get help to deal with it.

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Not_as_witty_as_u t1_iydxae7 wrote

Same goes for random candid videos. We used to do that in the 80s but since the internet we’re worried about something being blasted out all over the world. But think about if you croaked tomorrow, how much footage would your family find of you just being yourself and having a good time?

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DroolingSlothCarpet t1_iydx84u wrote

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