And to add to this, if someone tells you they don't want children, don't tell them that they'll change their mind some day. As a 30 yr old woman in a long term, committed relationship, I've grown quite sick of the number of people (especially other women) who have told me I'll change my mind some day or that if I do happen to get pregnant that it'll make me think differently about it. No, just no. At this point, I've had two IUDs for a total of 8 years. My current one will be replaced this summer for another 5 year one if I can't find a child-free friendly doctor to give me a permanent option. And if I can't, I'll just try again when the next one comes out. And if I do get pregnant, I will get an abortion. It's as simple as that. I make enough money to handle whatever obstacles that may pop up given the current trend in pro-life legislation. I have no qualms about getting it done, getting pregnant would not change my mind about it, it's no different to me than any other necessary outpatient medical procedure.

Sorry that became a bit of a rant, I've just become more and more irked about the whole thing recently because it happens so frequently. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for an ablation soon so I can make people uncomfortable when I tell them about it as a response.

[removed]

Family planning is NEVER anybody's business except the family that is doing the planning. I never even asked my own sister, I let her tell me when she became pregnant 4 yrs into her marriage, at age 36.

I’ve always wanted kids, and I found a partner that felt the same. Even with that, I had my first child in 2021, and he is my heart and soul, but these past two years have been some of the most challenging in my LIFE. If someone doesn’t want kids, absolutely more power to them, and they shouldn’t have kids, because I can’t imagine going through all this after never having wanted it in the first place. Being a parent is HARD and kudos to those people who have recognized that it’s not something they want. Everyone is entitled to choose how they live their lives, and having kids isn’t the only option to be happy!

I wouldn’t take the passive aggressive approach like leaving dishes on her bed. Instead, I would have an honest conversation with her about how you’re unhappy with having dirty dishes out. Offer a solution, such as each of you do the dishes as soon as you’re finished using them. No “if” or “buts,” if you don’t have time for dishes, you don’t have time for cooking either.

Nah imma have to pick your brain, it’s too baffling to me. So baffling I forgot all the answers the last person I asked gave, so imma feel like this is the first time I’m hearing people say they don want kids. No judgement tho

Thank you! As a childfree person I can attest that being harassed about having kids is incredibly annoying. It’s not anyone’s business. Each person has to make the decision that’s best for them!

I saw a great video on social media called “What If We Talked To People With Kids The Way We Talk To Childless People” and it had the person asking questions like “what if you change your mind but it’s too late and now they’re just living in your house?”… “How are you going to take care of yourself when you’re old and have no money left cause you spent it on kids?”… “I know you guys say that now, but if your partner changes their mind later would you be willing to out the kid up for adoption?”…. Really shows how dumb these interrogations of child-free people really are.

I do this off and on and I always feel better, I'm going on 2 months now and hope this time is permanent.

Am computer tech, don't really understand what you're trying to say.

Hello and welcome to r/LifeProTips!

Please help us decide if this post is a good fit for the subreddit by up or downvoting this comment.

If you think that this is great advice to improve your life, please upvote. If you think this doesn't help you in any way, please downvote. If you don't care, leave it for the others to decide.

For me, what finally made a difference during blood draws, injections, etc. was to not hide from it or get embarrassed. I simply tell them that my body reacts in an over the top manner to these things and kind of make a joke out of it. I know it's ridiculous. I know I'll be perfectly fine, but my body still gets the cold sweats, I feel light-headed and dizzy. If they ask how I do with blood draws, for instance, I tell them it depends on the day, but I'll do my best.

About 99% of the time now it's over before the sweat gets too far down my head. I ask for a paper towel to wipe it off, laugh about it, and get the heck out of there.

Another thing that works well for me is to ask them about their day or something and really listen to their answer. If you can focus on learning about them, it distracts your mind enough that it's over before the body has time to react.

I've gone from literally passing out in the past to sitting through regular 3 hour infusions without a problem. If this guy can do it, I know you can too.

How would you be prompted by your computer? The only way I can think of that happening is via email. Am I missing anything else?

I just finished helping my dad get his laptop reimaged and restored from backup after he let someone on his computer and they almost got into his bank account. He's still dealing with the banks and credit card companies. I have to remind him to freeze his credit report. (thanks! lol)

I don’t want kids but if my wife does I’d be okay with it tbh

[deleted]

This sounds great and doable, thank you!!

Former sales and finance. Do your research and know what you’re willing to pay. Always work the deal on purchase price and not payment. Finance thru a credit union for best rates and not at the dealer. They will add a point or two in interest to your deal in the finance office if they can. Don’t hesitate to walk away.

I think it's still okay to ask. I mean, if they say no then don't be a jerk and push the issue. But if you don't ask then how will you know the answer?

THANK YOU!!! That's what I'm saying! I hate bringing up the topic of kids with people because they are ALWAYS trying to convince me otherwise. 🙄 Even my best friend and therapist. Like no. I don't want my uterus stretched and have morning sickness and be carrying a child for months. I don't want to hear them cry at 3 am or I have to stop working to stay at home with them. My sis got 5 kids and that's a good enough excuse right there not to want any of my own. I'm just firm with what I want. And kids ain't one of them. Just respect the decision and let it go. 😤😤😤

LPT: People need to mind their own business.

I had to install Svenkylyn AV but I ran the cleaner too late now all my files are in crypted

Holy shit, that's awesome! If I send you my credit card numbers can you enter some for me too? I'll split the prize with you.

They just told me to send all my credit card numbers and if one of them is lucky I win a trip to the bahamas

So smart! I buy multiple packages of the Hormel natural bacon whenever they are on sale and I never thought of this brilliant idea!