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jumpship88 t1_ja3oa3h wrote

Reply to LPT request: Can anyone give me a couple ideas or things to try, that might alleviate some of the guilt and shame I (28F) feel? by magdeedz

Been there done that. Best advice? My guilt was so bad after I got clean that at times I would just have tears coming down my face and I’m a guy. The guilt fucked with me for a while so I fully understand. What worked for me? I learned that everyone makes mistakes and that growing up I didn’t have a good upbringing and I realized why I went to opiates to forget the shit that’s in my life. I’m a human who made mistakes. Who realizes it now and wants to make it better. So what I’m saying is only time and the realization that it wasn’t really your fault you can’t blame yourself fully. I used to buy then I understood why I did what I did. I’m human, your human. Let it go through you and understand your a human who made mistakes. I don’t know if you also went through shit like I did when I was young but it doesn’t matter your human it happened. Let it through you feel it and time will make you understand. It’s all about once your clean are you the same shitty person or good to yourself and those who are around you that counts. Once you clean up and change who it made you became and learn it’s from certain things it happened the guilt will go. Right now I have no guilt at all. But at one point just thinking of my family I start tearing till my tear ducts dry. I’m good now knowing why and I haven’t shed a single tear. It just takes time and for you to realize the truth. I know it’s hard because society doesn’t help it just always make you feel like your the problem your the criminal your the bad one but in reality we are victims and now that I know this I don’t have guilt BUT I now make sure I do my best for my family and good people around me and I have cut off everyone whose bad or a peace of shit and there lot of those always in our lives. Good luck wish you the best. Don’t let your guilt put you in a while I was in for a long time where I always feared or cried and let it get the best of me please it’s a dark place I was in for a while before I learned this. So best of luck msg me if you need any help talking through anything.

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zvii t1_ja3l4gb wrote

Reply to comment by randompersons90 in LPT: Don't look at your clock when waking up during the night to increase your quality of sleep. It's a lot easier to fall back asleep when you don't keep track of the sleeping time you still have left. by migudude

I only mean the anxiety of "am I going to get enough sleep tonight." But it really is that simple, stop caring and just let your body sleep. Or not. And if not, take the rest as good enough. Works wonders if you don't care how much sleep you get and just go to bed when you're tired and get up when you wake up.

I used to be the worst sleeper until I finally just said fuck it. Now I sleep like a baby, my head hits the pillow and I'm OUT 99% of the time. Still have those nights where I feel like I was up all night, but the next day I feel absolutely no different. Once I let go of caring about it and worrying about the next day, the entire problem disappeared.

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Prometheus188 t1_ja3kdbz wrote

Reply to comment by timmyboyoyo in LPT: When calculating something such as rent or pay, a month is 4.345 weeks by MikeTorsson

There are 12 months in a year and you get paid every 2 weeks. So you might think “Oh that means I get paid 24 times a year”, since 2 weeks is about 1 month”. But that’s wrong because 2 weeks is not 1 month, it’s only 28 days. And biweekly pay actually results in 26 pays per month, not 24.

So you should be getting paid twice a month for about 10 months, and for 2 months in the year you’ll get 3 payments. For example, if you got paid January first, you’d also get paid on January 15th and January 29th. That’s 3 payments in a single month. That should happen twice a year.

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TriGurl t1_ja3ejcb wrote

Reply to LPT request: Can anyone give me a couple ideas or things to try, that might alleviate some of the guilt and shame I (28F) feel? by magdeedz

Have you tried 12 step programs? Consider coda.org. By learning boundaries for myself and others I have learned to love myself and walk in the acceptance prayer as my “mantra” that I can’t change the past, I can focus on me and take care of me and have forgiveness and love for myself. It’s an entire new freedom!

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spiderysnout t1_ja3dgy4 wrote

Reply to LPT: When calculating something such as rent or pay, a month is 4.345 weeks by MikeTorsson

Going along with this, bi weekly payments aren't the same as 2 per month. I find gyms especially always try to do this. Oh its 40 bucks a month with $20 bi weekly payments. Actually, $40x12mon/yr =$480/yr; $20x(52wks/2=26/yr)=$520/yr.

Pay monthly if they give you this option!! Or if that's not an option tell them they're wrong.

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leader_of_penguins t1_ja3cr74 wrote

Reply to comment by dilligaf6304 in [LPT Request] I have a vocally loud family and sometimes I can often hear them when in my room when I need silence. is there anything I can do to dampen their sound in my room? by MarsTalks

Learning how to insert earplugs correctly makes them work 10x better. This combined with over the ear nose cancelling headphones is the best combo that I've found so far.

You pull up on your outer ear a little to straighten the ear canal, then roll the earplug between your fingers to squish it and make it narrow, insert it, and hold it there for a second until it inflates slightly and stays put.

The classic, flat 3M earplugs also work much better than the fancier-looking bullet shape ones

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