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keepthetips t1_ja1mt6m wrote

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DaftDayDown t1_ja1kdgq wrote

I work in addiction treatment, and I have struggled with mental health and being toxic/making poor choices.

When I hear my clients stories... I have never once judged. I hear the things that you said quite frequently. I honestly love my clients - I have not thought twice about anything. And I have heard some pretty damn "awful" things. I don't care.

All that matters is who you are going forward. You're not alone, not alone in the slightest. You've learned.

Not everyone will be kind. But I think that's a sign of immaturity and not about you.

My personal opinion is everyone deserves love. I don't care what you've done - you could say the most objectively vile thing, but how's it going to help you if I judge you or hate you? How's it going to help you if you judge or hate you?

I've personally found that judging yourself tends to keep you locked in destructive behaviors.

You are worthy of love and respect and a good life.

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Beautiful-Page3135 t1_ja1jiwn wrote

Last year at the state fair we kept having people shove between myself and my fiancee. Every time they said "Sorry" I fired back "Don't be sorry, just don't fucking do it."

The looks I got were priceless. Like they were just saying they were sorry automatically, and hadn't actually registered they were impeding others' lives until I made them aware.

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cyberdeath666 t1_ja1j4iy wrote

10/10 would think OP is an absolute idiot or clearly trying to manipulate. Either way, this is a dumb opinion from a frat bro, and definitely not a LPT any respectful person should consider. If OP had balls they wouldn’t need to lie their way into a conversation, they’d just talk to the group as if he actually respected them and didn’t just want to fuck them. And if you do happen to attract the girl that just wants to fuck and doesn’t care about being lied to, well, have fun I guess. Still gross advice that no one should follow.

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GingerCatGang t1_ja1iwaz wrote

Was coming here to make sure someone mentions Brown's work. She's been researching vulnerability and shame for over 20 years and while sometimes I have to take breaks from her stuff because it can get too intense, she has helped me so much with finding my empathy and opening up to people. I'm reading Atlas of the Heart right now.

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cyberdeath666 t1_ja1iuug wrote

Manipulating a group of people to get an in is not a respectable way to approach anyone. Does it work sometimes, sure. Is it still a d-bag move? Yes. And I’m getting married in a few months so I’ve obviously approached someone, and not with tacky shit like this.

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Cultural-Command3046 t1_ja1i2fr wrote

It sounds like you are struggling with a lot of guilt and shame related to your past experiences. It is understandable that you want to find relief from these feelings. One suggestion is to practice mindfulness, which can help you become more aware of and manage your emotions. You can find helpful resources online that explain how to incorporate mindfulness into your daily life. Additionally, you could explore different forms of therapy, such as cognitive behavioral therapy, which can help you learn how to reframe your thoughts and gain insight into how to better manage your emotions. Finally, it can be very helpful to connect with a supportive community of people who have gone through similar experiences. This can help you feel less alone and provide you with additional resources and tools to cope with your emotions.

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