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volcanicpale t1_ja0ybk9 wrote
Reply to LPT request: Can anyone give me a couple ideas or things to try, that might alleviate some of the guilt and shame I (28F) feel? by magdeedz
We have all done things that we feel ashamed of and wish we could take back. I’ll say getting and staying sober, for me, meant really focusing on the present and the future. When I find myself thinking of the past, the painful parts, I do some deep breathing and focus in on the here and now. We can’t take back what we did, and honestly it’s part of who you are and where you are so there is some value to all that experience and knowledge of where we don’t want to be again. Good luck, don’t be so hard on yourself.
tindV t1_ja0y9qa wrote
Reply to LPT request: Can anyone give me a couple ideas or things to try, that might alleviate some of the guilt and shame I (28F) feel? by magdeedz
Time certainly helps. That and a positive attitude.
ProfessorEcstatic267 t1_ja0y8s0 wrote
Reply to LPT request: Can anyone give me a couple ideas or things to try, that might alleviate some of the guilt and shame I (28F) feel? by magdeedz
Have you considered a NA meeting? This is what the 12 steps deal with.
the_original_Retro t1_ja0y595 wrote
Reply to comment by ArthurDaTrainDayne in LPT: If someone is talking loudly over speakerphone in public and you want them to shut up, join in on their conversation. by ConnieKai
Did you read the entire comment or just lose interest halfway through before commenting?
Specialist_Usual1524 t1_ja0y1c1 wrote
Reply to LPT request: Can anyone give me a couple ideas or things to try, that might alleviate some of the guilt and shame I (28F) feel? by magdeedz
I can offer one thing that has helped me get over my past. I try and make one persons day better than it was. Little things to just make them feel better. Ex: Return their shopping cart to the corral, let them take my place in line when they look stressed. Just little things. I can’t change the past, but I can change their day.
ProfessionalStart9 t1_ja0x9qm wrote
Reply to LPT request: Can anyone give me a couple ideas or things to try, that might alleviate some of the guilt and shame I (28F) feel? by magdeedz
Tbh all I can say is, that’s in the past and you’re not that person anymore. All you’re in control of, is changing what you’re doing right now, in this current moment. If you’ve become aware of your past wrongs that’s good enough, move forward, don’t stay in the past
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Cetun t1_ja0x5wk wrote
Reply to comment by Regnes in LPT: If someone is talking loudly over speakerphone in public and you want them to shut up, join in on their conversation. by ConnieKai
LPTs like these assume no crazy people exist in the world. It's the same people who are like "of someone's is being annoying on the subway just confront them". Yea sure do that if you want to enter the lotto for being featured top page on r/publicfreakout
schwifty38 t1_ja0x3o8 wrote
Reply to comment by mgd1006 in LPT - Tell those that give you a gift card what you purchased. by resjudicata1
Will u buy me an Ikea gift card with it?
CuteCowdy t1_ja0wyev wrote
I’m actually the opposite, i feel like i can never cry, and I’m always apathetic to stuff.. I also need help
schwifty38 t1_ja0wu4j wrote
"Thanks for letting me know u don't give a shit about me by buying me a gift card. I'm gonna use it to buy you a gift card for your birthday. "
Recent_Caregiver2027 t1_ja0wont wrote
keepthetips t1_ja0whpk wrote
Reply to LPT request: Can anyone give me a couple ideas or things to try, that might alleviate some of the guilt and shame I (28F) feel? by magdeedz
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phoenixhourglass t1_ja0whja wrote
I made a point of doing that once, and my grandma laughed at me for it. So yeah, never again.
stargate-command t1_ja0wc02 wrote
I’m way older than you, and not at all “sensitive”. My emotional responses tend to be dulled by my upbringing and what I believe is a trauma defense.
I have great appreciation for my lack of sensitivity. Being overly emotional seems exhausting. But I will say that positive people are great. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t like being around folks who readily express positive emotions like joy, humor, love, compassion, etc. if that’s you, then please don’t seek to change. It’s delightful to be around people who appreciate the world, and who exude positivity.
But negative emoters are a drag. Folks who sad cry over small inconveniences, or get very angry over little things, get envious over everything, easily offended and fearful. If it is negative emotions, then I’d say it would be worth working on a bit.
Sounds like you’re on the positive side, which begs the question…. Why would you want to change? If people you are around don’t like that you are happy, that is bonkers… find new people. If they are sick of your crying and complaining, then maybe it’s worth exploring though.
glenmcfarreddit t1_ja0w8hb wrote
Reply to LPT: If someone is talking loudly over speakerphone in public and you want them to shut up, join in on their conversation. by ConnieKai
'Hello mum'. My classic goto for interrupting a phone call that I'm not involved in.
schwifty38 t1_ja0vyz4 wrote
Reply to comment by RuralPARules in LPT: If you’re getting thirsty and need water, but don’t want to pay for a bottle, go in a fast food restaurant and ask for a cup of water. Depending where you are, it’s free or charge about $.25 USD for the cup. It’s filtered and you can get plenty of refills. by [deleted]
r/shittylifeprotips do this even if you live in East Palenstine, OH
Vanishingf0x t1_ja0vr28 wrote
Reply to LPT: If someone is talking loudly over speakerphone in public and you want them to shut up, join in on their conversation. by ConnieKai
My coworker and I got in trouble cause we’d do this at work when someone would walk up to the register. Especially if they asked us to wait.
Bongos-Not-Bombs t1_ja0vnog wrote
Reply to comment by mr3vak in LPT: Keep a pair of scissors or knife with you when moving, this way you can actually unpack. by tootieClark
I've just carried a Swiss Army Knife for years. I don't go into courthouses or airports enough for it to really be an encumbrance.
schwifty38 t1_ja0vmqx wrote
Reply to comment by Joe_Primrose in LPT: If you’re getting thirsty and need water, but don’t want to pay for a bottle, go in a fast food restaurant and ask for a cup of water. Depending where you are, it’s free or charge about $.25 USD for the cup. It’s filtered and you can get plenty of refills. by [deleted]
I would have died of thirst this very night had this kind person not posted this 😂
Bongos-Not-Bombs t1_ja0vjl7 wrote
Reply to LPT: Keep a pair of scissors or knife with you when moving, this way you can actually unpack. by tootieClark
One time I was working for an A/V contractor. We had a bunch of our techs pack up all their tools and a bunch of the product to be installed in a wooden crate, to have it shipped via truck to the site.
When they got there, they realized they'd not brought any drills with them to unscrew the crate.
Not the brightest bunch.
ananasSauce11 t1_ja0vhiv wrote
Reply to comment by phadrus56 in LPT: the rubber nubs on a stern quality masturbation glove can also make for quick work of not only, say, the dishes but also in pre-meal prep when scrubbing potatoes and other root crops by [deleted]
I remember the old MTV show Room Raiders, they'd always discover "masturbation kits" inside the guys' rooms. They were a pair of gloves and some cream.
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lubricatedwhale97 OP t1_ja0v1qm wrote
Reply to comment by Fun_Amount3063 in LPT Request: What's the best way to save/purchase expensive items (car, furniture, tech etc) by lubricatedwhale97
I have a sinking bills account, 6 month emergency fund, additional saving account towards goal of homeownership etc
It's not baffling, there's just a 1000 ways to approach this and I'm interested in hearing them from others in case they have a better system
blay12 t1_ja0yqoj wrote
Reply to comment by hearnia_2k in LPT: When calculating something such as rent or pay, a month is 4.345 weeks by MikeTorsson
Lol ok, but I wasn’t commenting on what’s normal in different places, I was just explaining how a bi-weekly payment schedule can result in 3 checks a month.