My (33F) SO (33M) tears up at so many things. It's seriously one of my favorite things about him. Hes a carpenter, and im sure his co-workers would make fun of him for it (i know he listens to podcasts at work that make him tear up in front of his co-workers). I know he doesn't like that about himself probably the same way you don't like it about yourself. But i wouldn't want him to change that. Its one of the things that makes him the most caring person, he feels things intensely.

Long story short, there are people out there that will love you for it!

OP: back up that voicemail file to a personal drive if you haven't already: they often get lost in a phone move and may be lost if you change phone carrier as well.

It would seem to me that those that criticize you for having emotions are actually insecure about not having the emotions themselves. Don’t base your value on what these people think of you as it sounds to me they are the ones that are damaged, not you! I totally understand where you are coming from though, I didn’t learn this lesson overnight and at one time I was pretty insecure about the fact that when I got mad I would cry sometimes and I always felt like that made me look weak. It just came to me in time that it’s who I am and that counts for something. Believe me it’s far better to go through your life feeling as many emotions as you can as it gives you a sense of fulfilment and allows you to better understand yourself and others. Don’t change who you are for the sake of someone else’s insecurities!

Best answer here. Labeling promotes mindfulness. Thinking about how you feel will also slow down your reflexive response. Keep thinking about how you feel and why you feel that way. You are a rational being. Get to know yourself!

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I have automatic thoughts that horrify me sometimes after growing up in a strongly conservative area. I just hope, like OP says, that the fact my conscious self recoils from them and would never act on them means I'm better than that.

I’d like to know too. I actually love them. That’s what they serve at most hotel breakfast buffets.

Dude, a house key works just as well and can be carried anywhere.

This just reminded me I have an ikea gift card lol.

"You would care less of how much people think of you, if you realised how little they do."

Embrace it,

I wish I could cry and express my emotions. I've hide it for so long that its very hard to cry or laugh. I feel locked up inside.

Join the military. Deploy. Come back. People will ask you why you have a blank expression. You will quickly realize that it’s not all it’s chalked up to be. You don’t want to be an emotionless husk dude.

When giving information, always remember to communicate clearly so that your readers can understand your title.

So when giving information be sure to give information. Got it, Thanks.

I got it by simply "not caring" or just internalizing my emotions (Leaving most of what I feel as thoughs instead of actually expressing them). Now I got depression and overthinking and I struggle to express anything.

I do feel stuff, but it takes a VERY strong feeling to make me do something. It sucks, cause sometimes people tell me a joke, or a good news, or something sad, or I am angry about something, and I'm just like :l

If you want to go that way go ahead, but restraining your emotions, specially if you are sensitive, is not going to end well.

I've been doing that for a while, not watching the time I mean.😂

The Marie Kondo of compartmentalization is an amazing description. Hope you are doing okay.

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This isn't a permanent solution, nor should you want one (hopefully) but this well help mask emotions.

You can conjure up certain memories that make you feel a certain way to counteract what you're feeling in the moment. Typically the "opposite" works.

Sad about something? Think about one of your happiest moments.

Incredibly mad but don't want to lash out? Remember a time when you felt peaceful.

This helps me a lot.

The most effective method for not showing when you're upset specifically for me is internally deciding, almost reciting, "I don't care what you think about me anymore."

Also look up some Bene Gesserit mantras, lol.

I’ve been watching emotional movies and not letting it show on my face. Mostly just deep breathing brings me back to 0 from 50 tho

it’s not voices, it’s you going over potential options/thoughts/etc

congrats, in 30 years you haven‘t worked on your own insecurities.

I need to know if I'm gonna be late to work. Without knowing, it will just stress me more.

It’s not that hard. I put away all the left over money at the end of each month into a separate account where it slowly accumulates over time. When I need to buy a new car, I transfer the money into my Main account and then just buy the car with it.

We have a joint account for bills and both my wife and myself have a standing order to transfer a set amount of our wages into it every month. We calculated the rough amount needed to cover monthly bills, then added another 20% on top. This money slowly builds up and provides an extra pot of cash for unforeseen large purchases, the occasional holiday etc. Once that account gets to a certain level, we transfer a chunk into a savings account and this has also grown enough to cover us in case of job loss etc (or really big purchases). It works well for us.