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Ambitious-Load-7670 t1_j9oukbn wrote

This only applies to children whose parents havn't emotionally abandoned them for their new spouses. Its not fun dealing with mental issues and having your biological parents not take any responsibility for your trauma since they just wanted to keep having bandaid kids until an inevitable divorce

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XXXforgotmyusername t1_j9orkqi wrote

I will admit in an argument. Rarely to I phrase things in the way I should. If I’m polite, and correct, I can make people admit to anything. The politeness is the hard stuff!

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Smoky-Abyss OP t1_j9oqucp wrote

I meant it as just depression, not a bunch of separate problems that’ve been held in. I apologize if the wording was bothersome.

My stresses increase in the final weeks because they’re suddenly not helping out and they’re acting odd and not talking about what’s wrong, and then it ends and everything becomes abundantly obvious that things weren’t okay. My partners have always been really good at pretending things are okay. I think it’s because of traumatic childhoods where pretending everything is fine was a survival strategy.

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sapphicpattern t1_j9omsuq wrote

If you can’t do this (figure out hypothetical evidence that shifts your belief) then you don’t actually have a well-formed belief in the first place! Not being able to answer this question is a huge signal that you need to stop that discussion and go to a different level and start enumerating thoughts that do have evidence behind them. And then see if you can build back up to the original thought.

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EvenStevenKeel t1_j9omm9s wrote

Say someone didn’t believe the moon landing was real. You could ask them “what if you found out someone you knew personally had been to the moon?”

And then you talk along those lines

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SmallShoes_BigHorse t1_j9omddz wrote

And as long as they are about opinions and all know it, the discussion can serve a purpose.

But when it's a fact based discussion ('is there a new world order' etc) and there is nothing that COULD convince you otherwise, then it's not a discussion but rather a shouting match and quite purposeless.

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Se7enLC t1_j9olfhp wrote

Except they won't say "nothing". They'll say something so incredibly unlikely to exist it may as well be.

But then when you present them with that impossible evidence they'll find some way to discount it.

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