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jotsea2 t1_j9oki9a wrote

True, and there’s some fucked ip relationships out there that can be toxic.

That said, there’s still a bond, and you’ll likely miss them when their gone if their behavior isn’t completely toxoc

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MooseKnee10 t1_j9ojo6x wrote

Most of your recent posts are little angry sounds bites against liberalism. It might do you good to disengage from politics/news for a little. It's all meant to enrage and inspire fear. Politics can't be affecting you enough to warrant this much of your time.

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weluckyfew t1_j9oj7f8 wrote

On a related note, if your parents are elderly check in with them on their finances. Make sure you or someone they trust has easy access to all their money, has medical power of attorney, and that their investments make sense for their age.

Also see if you need to start putting up grab bars, shower seats, and perhaps some sort of smartwatch or voice activated emergency system.

My 84-year-old mother lived alone. Last month she fell going down the stairs. She laid on the floor for two or three days, unable to move with a broken hip and a broken arm, thinking this was how she was going to die. One of her friends got worried when she didn't return her calls, so she came over and found her, and they got her to the hospital in time.

I had plans to visit her just two weeks later, and one of the things on my list was getting her some sort of life alert system. Unfortunately that idea came a little too late for her.

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317862314 t1_j9ohmia wrote

This is a good pro tip.
Somehow I got in this dumb habit of saying no to offers to do things.
I was always too busy, I had to work, my friends whated to hang out on the weekend.

Now one of my parents passed and I regret not doing more with them.

Makes me cry thinking about it.

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xanthraxoid t1_j9ogqci wrote

My granddad died a few years back, and an uncle a year ago. I've found myself even more keen to spend time with all my relatives, particularly my gran who's in her nineties and losing her memory. Whenever I'm with her, I just bask in her presence, filled with a bittersweet certainty that these times are far more precious than I can know, and are palpably finite...

I'm making sure that I express love and appreciation for everyone in my life, especially family, and especially those who're getting on in years.

Hey, guys. Don't let any family feud or past awkwardness get in the way of this stuff - I promise that 99% of those disagreements are ultimately chaff that isn't worthy to get between you and your family or friends.

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fishbootlives t1_j9ogm82 wrote

In My circle of seven friends from elementary school, and we’ve lost our first parent. It was back in November but I can’t explain how utterly gutted I am to have lost her. I’ve known her and her mom since we were two years old I turned 29 the week after her funeral. When you have the chance to say goodbye to someone you absolutely have to take it.

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cheeze_whiz_shampoo t1_j9ogih0 wrote

>What proof could make me not believe this?

The real answer is shame. Deep, aggressive shame.

Our culture did not experience a tidal wave of anti intellectualism in the last 20 years, it experienced a tidal wave of unencumbered shamelessness.

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LorenzoStomp t1_j9og2an wrote

Its always a good idea to check in with your partner. After all, you are part of a team, they're not just some furniture that comes with the house (and what if your couch started doing something it didn't usually do? You'd definitely check on that, right?). But I wouldn't necessarily put "just" before "depressed". I'm sure you didn't mean it but it kinda comes off like, "Oh no, are you gonna leave me?! Oh, you're just depressed, no worries then. Just so long as my status quo's not affected." I've been in situations where my partner was refusing to get help for mental problems and the only way to push them towards getting help was for the relationship to end (they needed the change to motivate them and allow them to focus). I've also left relationships because I was depressed and not getting any support and being expected to continue my half of things with no help was dragging me down further. Sometimes both things happened at once. Either situation sucks for everyone involved but it was the right thing to happen.

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keepthetips t1_j9ofrid wrote

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