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punkwalrus t1_j9ensu8 wrote

It's a good way to disseminate information that can't be made official, though. Gossip will spread faster than memos. Sadly, it's prone to alterations depending on the tellers narrative. Plus, people make up stuff all the time. There's a general "group think" that's hard to manage, and secrets just get broken by some deductive reasoning PLUS the unreliable narrative. So you could be close lipped and just get shit found out because now you're a puzzle they want to solve and then spin for their own agendas.

One of my friends is a woman who is socially awkward. She is kind, and wants to do a good job. But frequently gets fucked over by catty office workers. Often by pretending to be her friend and then just using her (to get secrets, for example) until she's all spent up, and then she becomes the scapegoat until she quits. It's weird because I have worked with her and I know she's amazingly talented with a modicum of support, but women just fuck her over again and again, because being a mildly autistic woman just irritates the fuck out of neurotypical women.

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seamustheseagull t1_j9ejz3d wrote

This. And you know there are people you trust very strongly with secrets, but you never know under what circumstances they might reveal it to someone else.

I learned from a very young age to keep information to myself because my mother is incapable of keeping secrets to the point of defiance. Nothing I or my siblings told her was kept secret, we all knew about each others' business in short order. She has always insisted this is a good thing and secrets are bad (and yes, she has no secrets either...), but I know now in hindsight why this was an awful policy.

So some of us learned to never say anything.

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Impressive_Two2623 t1_j9ei8g0 wrote

Sun box. It's a big boxy lamp with very bright lights that you sit in front of for 10-15 minutes in the morning to treat seasonal depression. Unfortunately the price range is about the same as the sunrise clocks, i think, but you can check.

Morning light (and food) were key inputs to the biological clock last i checked, so the ideas of the sunrise alarm clock or sun box both tackle the darkness you're probably dealing with. If you can't afford them you may be able to do something with the concept of getting bright morning light. I know some people take a normal really bright lamp and put it on a timer as a poor man's sunrise clock. Of course when/if the sun is up you can go outside and get the real deal.

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gilly4213 t1_j9egaqz wrote

Download a circadian rhythm app/ sleep cycle app, you go through phases of sleep about every hour and a half going from rem sleep to deep sleep. Waking up during deep sleep is incredibly jarring, it is when your body is furthest from awake and you will be guaranteed to feel groggy waking up during peak rem sleep is relatively painless because as far as your brain is concerned your not far from conscious. Theses apps should ensure that you are being woken up at the right time to feel energetic even if it could be a half an hour before you need to get up. They will also usually have a gradual alarm that gets louder the longer you leave it so it is only as loud as needed to wake you and isn't waking the whole house

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