Yeah this is a shit take. Mentally, I am not in a good place at this point in time and it’s hard for me to respond to someone over the phone via text or call especially someone who’s asking me if I’m alright when they know I am not. You’re not entitled to anyone’s time, regardless of their reasoning as to why they aren’t responding to you. Even if it is a simple yes or no answer, most of the time when we say that, y’all want us to elaborate, then proceed to start talking about yourselves or your hardships or change the subject to some random shit we don’t have time for. I used to get upset when someone wouldn’t respond to me even though I’ve seen them on social media hours or days after the fact but now I realize people are busy, sometimes forgetful that you texted, aren’t on their phones much, mentally can’t bring themselves to have human contact via a cellular device, etc.

Stop being a self-centered asshole.

When you call people dumb on the Internet do you have an adjective to describe yourself? Like douche bag or a moron or narcissist asshole?

Also, gift experiences! Going to the woods with your child, teaching them how to knit, helping them redecorate their room (move furniture around, etc) are gifts many kids will remember for a long time, especially if you have to work long hours your time is the best gift you can give them.

Think simple. We had some new toys in my classroom for Christmas (first/second grade), the things they spent the most time with was a big cardboard box, pencils and the back of old assignments and the wooden building blocks we have. Building blocks can be expensive, but clean, saved garbage and material scraps, some pens, tape and scissors make for a great time tinkering and building that many kids love. You can try asking shops that sell big appliances for boxes (they usually want to get rid of them and want to give them away for free) as well.

Theres also organizations that help to get children Christmas and birthday gifts, don't be ashamed of asking them for help. They exist so kids can get the gifts they want, and they're usually glad to help even if you don't qualify for their specific organization.

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I believe this tip once saved our lives or at least prevented us from getting into a serious accident.

Back in 2019, I was stuck going from Albany to NYC in a massive snowstorm that was getting worse by the minute. The safest thing would have been to just wait it out at a hotel but I decided to drive down. Waze/Google maps all suggested to take the Taconic State Parkway instead of the interstate. For those who are not familiar with TSP, it is a winding road with no shoulders and is a difficult drive under normal conditions. The interstate had a lot of traffic and there were a couple of close calls too but was a lot safer than the alternative.

The navigation apps do not take into account changing weather conditions. Also it is important for the driver to be familiar with the routes offered under bad driving conditions.

You’re still not entitled to a response. You can choose to act accordingly, though. If someone is ghosting you and you don’t like that, choose to attempt transparent communication explaining that it hurts you, or choose to change the nature of your relationship, or dissolve it outright.

What do you think people did before texting was around? We all called each other and if we didn't want to talk, we didn't pick up. Also consider that maybe your friend saw the text, decided they would respond a little later, and then forgot. Have you tried to follow up in the past 20 days? If you really are that concerned about them you would have made more attempts to contact them.

There can be many reasons a person my not reply. Is it just one person or do you notice that many people take a long time or never respond to your messages?

I think it's disrespectful to assume that someone should drop everything they're doing to answer you just because there's a capability to do so.

Looking glass technology

Stop thinking you're entitled to an answer. Nobody has to answer you if they don't feel like it. If you're upset about it then don't ask.

We aren’t misunderstanding your opinion is just dumb and we don’t agree, how narcissistic are you?

Lol that’s not a real apology they don’t want to talk to you get over it. People aren’t at your beck and call 24/7 and this post makes it very clear why people aren’t responding to you.

I understand that upsets you and makes you worry more. Have you tried calling instead of messaging? Sometimes a voice is harder to ignore than a message that works it way out of your sightline.

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This is yet another LPT that's a case of "get to know your situation so you can make the best decision and not rely on simple rules"

Well i agree with your views but if he has given you much time and he is asking you about yourself not about himself then it's a polite way to maintain relations not a narcissistic trait .

Then there’s my road, directly off a Main Street downtown and still last to be plowed, if it even gets plowed at all.

The argument will be much harder in this case Because if he is not replying to you for a long time then do you think he will pick your call ?

Not LPT at all. This is narcissism. You’re not entitled to a response on everything you send.

If you need a reply so bad, make a phone call.

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Yes i am presenting my view correctly but people are misunderstanding it.

Today he called and said sorry if you feel bad

Well it's false