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Sarita_777 t1_j1n3yaw wrote

Reply to comment by 808adams in LPT: telling someone who list a significant amount of weight that they already looked great before their weight loss might not be taken as a compliment despite your intentions. by 808adams

Yeah but sometimes that hard work turns out is a hellish life of calorie restrictions, hunger, frustrations, etc. So it's like you are complimenting them for choosing to live miserably just to be thinner - they might be happy bout the weight loss but unhappy about the price they have to pay for it... Again, everyone is different so I guess it depends on who would be receiving your advice 😅

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HOLEPUNCHYOUREYELIDS t1_j1n3imv wrote

Reply to comment by Greyh4m in LPT: If you are hurting this year for money and you don't have a lot for your kids for Christmas/holidays, hide what the gifts you have, make a treasure hunt with clues and riddles, and stretch it out to give them a great experience. by pinheadbrigade

Most cities should have some kind of charity thing, especially for christmas. I know my city has Santas Anonymous to help less fortunate families. Use them if you need to, especially when you have small children! Dont be embarrassed, and when things get better you can volunteer to help give back!

Or you can even use the charity and volunteer the same year if you feel embarassed or ashamed for needing to use them

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HOLEPUNCHYOUREYELIDS t1_j1n36rh wrote

Reply to comment by FemboyJosieLee in LPT: If you are hurting this year for money and you don't have a lot for your kids for Christmas/holidays, hide what the gifts you have, make a treasure hunt with clues and riddles, and stretch it out to give them a great experience. by pinheadbrigade

I remember most of the consoles and stuff my brother and I got. But the real good and more vivid memories of those consoles were the one or two times we would all sit around playing them together. From Super Mario Bros 3 on the NES to Bubble Bobble on ps2 to Wii sports on the wii.

Great times, great memories

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Sarita_777 t1_j1n35ll wrote

Reply to LPT: telling someone who list a significant amount of weight that they already looked great before their weight loss might not be taken as a compliment despite your intentions. by 808adams

I don't fully agree with this.

For some people it might sound defeating, but for others like me if they tell me now that I look better than when I was 30kgs heavier, it just reinforces my beliefs from before - that I looked terrible and really needed to lose the weight. Nobody likes to hear that, not even after weight loss 😖

What's important to someone who has lost weight, is being asked if they are feeling happier with themselves now that they lost the weight and are doing whatever actions for it. Be supportive of whatever answer you get, and voilà! 😇

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Helios4242 t1_j1n2v5x wrote

Reply to LPT: telling someone who list a significant amount of weight that they already looked great before their weight loss might not be taken as a compliment despite your intentions. by 808adams

It's also important to normalize that people come in, and look good as, a variety of body types.

Who's more important? The person who's just lost weight or the person listening who isn't happy with their weight but isn't able to lose weight easily?

Expanding our discussion of attractiveness (i.e., "looking good") helps construct a framework where people lose weight for health reasons or because they wish to, but not because of a fatphobic society. I dont think that undermines a person who worked hard to lose weight.

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