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Sometimes hurting feelings is the only option, no one will die from it. You can not always accept everything someone else is doing. Dont try to be extra rude but speak just clearly what is annoying you.

Exercise, weed, meditation, dancing like no-one's watching, sex, and combinations thereof.

Massagie! She love you long time!

You can say, “well, perhaps not in the Websterian sense of the word. “

Thank you! Take a bow.

“Not at aaaall” in a very sarcastic tone of voice.

People don’t always have self awareness of negative behaviors and sometimes you just have to let them know what’s up.

Haha. Have a lovely festive period @constantamazement

My bf says, "Well...I love you, but you are being a bit much" lol

They probably are aware. Anxious people are often self-aware their thoughts aren't rational, but they still have them and will still reach out to get external affirmation that they're not as bad as their head is making them out to be. Pointing out how their behaviour is making you feel can help snap them out of that, i.e. its making you feel like they're not listening to you or trusting what you say, making you feel like you're talking in circles, etc; pointing out that they're "self-obsessed" isn't going to help anything. Either they're anxious and they now feel like they're just as bad as their thoughts are making them out to be and feel even worse/shut down and avoid speaking to you whatsoever, or they're anxious but get defensive because it feels like an attack and now you're in an argument that goes nowhere.

They might already be working on it and asking for affirmations is something their therapist suggested to try and get them out of their own head but they're taking it too far, they may be in therapy but still working on their anxiety and not yet at a point where they're good at catching these things. Unless you know for a fact what they're doing outside of your interactions with them, you probably don't know if that's something they know and are working on.

The tip's centered on things they can change in the moment, aka lowering their voice, etc, not who they are as a person. Its like how you don't point out a physical issue or change on someone if they can't fix it in the moment- having something in their teeth yes, gaining a few pounds since the last you saw them absolutely no. If they're asking if they're annoying, point out what they can fix in the moment and focus on how its making you feel, not what you think they feel/think that's causing the behaviour.

Sudafed is the answer

I use Vaseline or aquafore instead of lip balm. And for the future, when I’m sick I try to put it on my nose 3 times a day to prevent any pain. (I also splurge for the tissue with lotion just in case)

If a person is self-obsessed that is something that they could and probably should work on. I don't know how to phrase it gently though.

Snuggling a dog or cat!

You make the yes sound with your mouth

You're missing the point- the approach is supposed to be about your feelings in response to a behaviour. Rephrasing both of those, it would be more along the lines of "I'm a little overloaded right now, and the volume you're talking at is contributing to that." and "It feels like you're not listening to me when you repeatedly ask if you're annoying, and it's frustrating to not feel listened to."

The point of the tip is avoiding accusatory language like "You are" and instead giving them something tangible that they might be able to adjust- someone genuinely might not be able to control the volume/pitch of their voice and making that their fault is just going to stoke insecurity without fixing anything, and saying something like "you're self obsessed and bothering me" comes across as an attack on them rather than anything constructive they can work on/with.

Get a humidifier.

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There is also saline gel which can be helpful. But definitely second the stuff with tissue (if you don’t care how you look or can wear a mask!)

Yoga Nidra: 30 minutes or so and brilliantly clear headed/restful feeling afterwards. I was about to have a panic attack yesterday so I hurried and prepared the yoga mat and noise cancelling AirPods. Put on a 35 minute version from Spotify and felt significantly better afterwards. Give it a shot!

Uae QTips to clean out the leftover mucus/boogers

Alot of the above are good ideas along with cold water therapy. I study neuroscience and the impact this has on your dopamine levels, your ability to cope with stress and your overall health and immunity is incredible.

Don't get intimidated by all the hard-core people jumping in ice covered lakes. Start small, with cold showers or a bath filled with coldest tap water. The idea is to create an environment that is mentally and physically stressful/hard for YOU. There are many studies showing the temperature of the water really doesn't have to be that extreme.

Google Wim Hof for popular resources.

Proud of you for seeking healthier coping mechanisms!

Smoke, clean, organize, and create anything!

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