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Affair-Recovery t1_izt7036 wrote

Reply to comment by blackeyedsusan25 in I’m Online Therapist, Claudia Delgado, LCSW. I work with Women that are having an Affair - Emotional or Physical. AMA. by Claudia-Delgado-LCSW

If one person has trauma related problems it is recommended for that person to be working through them individually in therapy. As far as couples therapy, you are correct that one person may hold more challenging behaviors that affect the relationship however it doesn’t change that in order for couples therapy to work, both parties have to be willing to put in work and not blame each other. it is very challenging to have someone accountable and hold responsibility while not coming from a place of blame. This might include one person having to accommodate or bend more. In therapy it may be found that the person having to accommodate more may feel like it’s too much.

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Affair-Recovery t1_izt5mgb wrote

Reply to comment by Burneracct157 in I’m Online Therapist, Claudia Delgado, LCSW. I work with Women that are having an Affair - Emotional or Physical. AMA. by Claudia-Delgado-LCSW

If the former relationship is over, the affair was never discovered, and person is still with AP … then the commitment to the previous partner is no longer active. In this situation disclosure might not help with any healing as former relationship has already dissolved.

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blackeyedsusan25 t1_iznm5m7 wrote

Reply to comment by Claudia-Delgado-LCSW in I’m Online Therapist, Claudia Delgado, LCSW. I work with Women that are having an Affair - Emotional or Physical. AMA. by Claudia-Delgado-LCSW

Here's the thing - what if one partner has PTSD, for example. The other partner's contribution to relationship deterioration is a fraction of the PTSD's. "One person is the problem" can be true in cases of heavy-duty emotional conditions.

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