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Classic_Stress1491 OP t1_ir56j1c wrote

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I read all the rules. I saw the rule about one post per topic per every 3 months and I haven't posted about this before. I wanted to both share that I launched this completely open source project and share my experiences with building software, the open-source community, and entrepreneurship more broadly. If there's a specific rule I missed then my apologies.

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Luigi_Conte OP t1_ir50tk5 wrote

I'm actually carrying out this project in the Indian side of Kashmir...so I feel I cannot t express any thought about transgender people's condition there. Regarding India I'm not sure in general that identity politics have been successful. The aim is progressive but to certain extent they have often produced some social envy when it's about quotas and subsidies. As many complex issues also here I find it hard to point out a simple solution. Also media visibility for sure doesn't harm, but I find even in the west it's quite different when we relate the LGBTQI+ discourse to some famous singer, actor or whatever and when it's about a family member. I always feel that progressive changes in the moral sphere are happening slowly, often on a microscopic scale far away from the highlights, and sometimes it's even hard to realize they are going on.

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starwarsgeek8 t1_ir4qe4t wrote

It's often said that Pakistan is one of only a small handful of nations (South Africa being the only other one I can think of at the moment) where legal protections for transgender people are significantly more progressive than societal attitudes at large. More often, of course, we see things happen the other way around in North America and Europe. Do you think that legal protections can be leveraged to change social attitudes in Pakistan similarly to how social attitudes have changed legal protections in North America and Europe?

Also, what would you say has been and/or will be the primary path for progress on acceptance of transgender people in Pakistani society? Lollywood representation, political representation, increased medical care/insurance coverage, a critical mass of individual coming out/openness, etc.?

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Luigi_Conte OP t1_ir4kfhp wrote

That's quite a controversial topic:

they consider themselves Muslims even if this can be problematic as for all LGBTQI+ and they mostly pray at Sufi shrines, where Islam is often preached in a softer way.

On a broader cultural perspective I would say that they have a role when it's about marriages, and marriage is a cornerstone in Kashmiri society. This doesn't solve everything of course...families mostly do not accept their children when they realize they are non-binary and teasing at school is an ordinary thing, so self acceptance is anyway a difficult psychological path. During the teenage many of them find protection from a transgender guru and go to live in a queer family cluster, while some neighborhoods in main cities have become somehow queer-friendly, so that they keep attracting newcomers

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Luigi_Conte OP t1_ir4ji1x wrote

That's quite a huge amount of questions! I will try to reply shortly:

-1Being Muslims for example they're not related to Hindu mythology as Hijra, but at the same time they adopted guru-chela structure. Many of them have relations with Indian transgender people and some even have Hindu Gurus. I have heard also someone claiming to be like "sadhus", being above caste, religion and so on...so borders are quite blurred and dynamic.

-2 Matchmaking is a profession some non transgender people also do..means collecting informations of girls and boys and presenting them to families with informations about social position, education, reputation etc...

-3 Yes...generational gap is quite an issue actually. Elders are often quite sober when it's about dressing and make up, but Youngers are more and more trying to express their female side. Gender reassignment surgery is one of this divisive topics and it's getting quite controversial.

-4 I would say that in their society, according to Islamic rules, their attitude is still acceptable till we don't speak about sexual life. So that part is not formally expressed

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jim-pickens69420666 t1_ir3v0jt wrote

Do you have any advice on what can be done as an aspiring (highschool) musician in a poorly funded/managed music program? I am willing to elaborate more on details if you would like, but for now I feel this should suffice.

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gohan32 t1_ir2ntt3 wrote

I got my BA in anthro and quickly decided I couldnt have the life I wanted by following futher in academia or working what I could with just a BA.

With the path you took, do you think that lends itself to having a family and single household lifestyle? How do you "have it all" and be in the anthro field? Maybe museum work, but I couldnt justify the loans to wage ratio.

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Tuotus t1_ir2iqxq wrote

So I have multiple questions,

  1. How much would you say the kishmiri trans community differ than other trans communities of the subcontinent? What are their similarities? Are they also mainly a transfem community or are other trans people also a part of it?
  2. In your previous reply you mentioned that kishmiri transgender community act as.a matchmaker in the community. This is not something i have heard of being associated with khwaja sra community in pakistan, what do they in this role, can you elaborate on that? Are they actually part of the comolete matchmaking process or the wedding process. Is it a historical role they're filling and if yes, how does it has changed post-colonialism?
  3. As all sorts of human rights are becoming more visible in pakistan, it is causing an increased divide among the younger and older populations in how they perceive the world, things they disagree on, and the traditions they want to follow or not follow. The khwaja sra community is also obviously going through similar process, how do you think the kishmiri trans community is faring in this regard and are they able to bridge some gaps b/w the younger and older generations? Do older trans people show more or less tolerance for change in their community compared to male and female communities there?
  4. They're matchmakers but what about their own matchmaking, do kishmiri trans community also believes in spiritual asexuality?

That's all I wanted to ask, hopefukly that was not too much. Anyways waiting for your reply, peace ✌

P.s. And yes, your documentary when will it release, i would really like to watch it 😄

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