Beto's hypothetical removal of rights is a lot less threatening than Abbott's actual removal of rights.

Downvoting me for outlining the fascism that republicans are committing leads me to believe that you're cool with it.

Tippetts will of course lose. You're saying you're fine with the Abbott outcome.

And Beto wouldn’t be trying to take any of our rights, he’s said several times he wants to take away our gun rights, and democrats nowadays seem eager to censure our speech. Beto is no better than Abbott. That’s why my vote is going to Mark Tippetts, he’s the only who won’t be trying to take away any of our freedoms.

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On a related note, can NM voters verify their vote has been recorded accurately?

I love this and your observations from personal experience seems to ring very true / align with my own. I really would like to see this discussion brought to light more broadly in society, but as we know challenging traditionally accepted cultural norms in any way often brings additional drama for the challenger.

I'd love to chat about this further in an academic sense, or even run a study or two to inform articles for publication. Feel free to DM me if you'd like to talk further and enjoy your holiday!

Thanks for your time and thoughtful responses

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If they say mayonnaise, then you know they're Ronchetti in a skin suit.

If you were drunk with power and forgot about consequences like a teenager with a convertible, what changes might you implement to the voting system to improve it before anyone caught you?

Great points, I'd be fascinated to see and read more of this in a book were you to publish one. I think it's a strong message reading how you view and phrase it that deserves more of a spotlight in our society.

Do you have any tips for the holiday season where many people may be getting asked "when are you having kids" by family members?

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Red or green? And you can't say "Christmas".

There should be a total country wide ban on electioneering on election day. And where your can vote early, within 400 yards of the voting booth

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Does posting help your tenure prospects?

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wow guys we found a real hacker here, in the flesh. I read it on the internet.

Love this advice Maggie! We finally decided in the last couple of years it’s a No for us and we felt such a weight lift, even when we said it out loud to each other! And then this year I maybe got a little too drunk and told my dad and his response was “yeah, I’m not surprised.” 😂 Mothers and sisters-in-law are a different story, but we’ll get there.

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What are you gonna do with this Heisenberg issue in the rise?

Oh! I can't believe I forgot--it is so helpful to hear how you navigated the social pressures in your own life and how you decided to live life on your terms--yes, that included children but it wasn't b/c society told you to -- it's because you really wanted them in your life. (Obviously, only say this if it is true).

Hearing that others even those who "fit" into the traditional model are doing so because they WANT to and made purposeful decisions is really refreshing.

Oh u/throwaway382629 THANK YOU SO MUCH for asking this question.

As a professional counselor by training I always default back to listening first, asking real questions that are not based in personal needs/desires, and give yourself permission to love someone who is different. One or more of these will be easier than the others and that will depend on the parents themselves and the relationship as a whole.

Additionally, if you are really wanting to support and help them through the process you can recommend the following the books (and you can read or skim yourself) the following books:

“Olive” by Emma Gannon — if you’re the only one in the friend group who doesn’t want kids
“Motherhood” by sheila heat — if you’re on the fence
“Childfree by Choice” by Amy Blackstone — if you’re great with kids but don’t want your own
“Selfish, Shallow, and Self-Absorbed” by Megan Daum — for a range of perspectives

Another way to help is when you are in social situations with that person is to help them have discussions outside of children--as a whole including discussion of status of uterus use. This is also a great way to deepen your relationship with these people because you both will connect on a deeper level.

I also wanted to come back to this and let you know I added my free scripts to my intro and these are really helpful in answering some of these questions where it is hard not to feel the need to keep explaining -- you can grab it free (in exchange for your email and you can unsubscribe anytime) here.

You are correct there are much larger fights inside the movement. And I am sure there are some that are working on alternative language. I am of the opinion to use the better option while the next best thing is being created. But as mentioned in the NYT article it isn't perfect by any means.

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