"The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else."

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But seriously, but finding something else to focus on and enjoy. Whether that's a new hobby, new activity or the company of a new individual. Once you have something else that joyfully takes up your mental bandwidth, you'll find yourself thinking less and less about it until it becomes a non-issue.

Thank you so much wow I appreciate it so much

Sure thing! Here are some quick and dirty answers.

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Trust? By doing the small things that you said you would early in a relationship. Be on time. Remember promises and dates. Follow through. Keep your word. These are all relatively small individually, but collectively, they tell you a lot about how the person values you and if they are trustworthy.

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Rekindle the spark? Creating new memories. By this I mean doing things for the first time. When we do that, we create dopamine, seratonin, cortisol and other chemicals that create emotion that create memories. They can be small things like picking up a hobby together or big things like moving or traveling.

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How to know if someone is for you? Basically by the reverse. By making sure you can identify the people that are WRONG for you as quickly as possible. You can never be sure about the future, but you can keep your eyes open for red flags and go all in with the best possible hand. Any little thing at the beginning, turns into a big thing in a relationship. So make sure you're okay with everything now, before the relationship gets put under stress mode.

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How to look at the now? Heard this recently: "If you're angry, you're living in the past. If you're worried, you're living in the future. Just concentrate on the now and that's where you'll find all the joy." I know that's easier said than done, but the past is immovable, nothing we can do to change it. But we CAN change our present. Don't let your past get in the way of your future.

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Hope these helped!

How do you get over someone who friendzoned you but you have daily contact with them through work and in a friend group?

Hi! I have a few if you don’t mind?

How do you rebuild trust in a relationship?

How do you rekindle the spark?

How do you know if someone is the one for you?

How to not let the past relationships ruin the good one you have now? ( my biggest downfall)

Thanks so much!!!

Well considering over 1/8th of folks in the US have is (~13%), it not uncommon and it's not the "devil" that it's made to seem in the health books. Yes, it can be serious if left untreated, but it's a very manageable thing. It's virtually impossible for someone with no sores (which is most of the time) to give it to someone else.

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It's not the "wear a condom for life," it's, "there'll be a small risk, but since we have good communication, we'll be honest with each other."

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But personally, if I loved someone and wanted to spend my life with them, I'd just say "F it," and get it with them and jauntily skip down HPV Lane together into the sunset.

Basically what I tell people is that open or poly relationships are for when you've "mastered" 1-on-1 relationships and are ready to start playing on hard mode, lol.

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But what I'm getting that is many times I hear it (similar to having a kid) used trying to save or repair a relationship. That's not going to work and it's usually just going to make it even more challenging.

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But if you guys have a solid relationship and a great and open line of communication, it's not crazy at all. But like any decision in a relationship (money, kids, religion), you just want to make sure you're both doing it for the right reasons. The best way to go about is just as you've said, with open communication and boundaries. Also, you don't need to rush anything. Take a few baby steps and get to know people in the communities, that way you can keep checking in with each other to make sure you're all on the same page.

Would you want to sexually spend the rest of your life with someone you'll have to wear a condom with because they have genital herpes and you don't?

You love this person but the genital herpes is almost a deal-breaker for you. But you really love this person.

What do you do?

My Fiance and I have been together for 9 years and have been having discussions about opening up the relationship - in your experience is this a bad idea for a loving long term couple? What are some ways we can go into this in the best way for our relationship, we have agreed on boundaries and are very open and communicative with each other generally

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Absolutely none, I can count to 99, I’ve had my wife to translate for me all this time and she lets me away with too much god bless her. It was quite difficult to be honest, coming to terms with food was the wildest. But it got easier as time went on.

How much Chinese did you manage to pick up and how difficult was the transition for you moving from Ireland to there?

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When I was there you only got in trouble if you were really egregiously breaking the law or if someone had to pump some numbers for whatever reason that month.

Generally the average cop just didn’t want to navigate the political minefield involved in arresting someone from a developed country.

>It was worse than the military being honest

Says the guy who has never been in the military.

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Yes me too. I have no feelings or opinions to voice at all on this matter.

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Ah.. right.. Thats understandable

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No you got fired for taking photos due to being under an NDA.

Absolutely nothing. I did a job for money.

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