Hi Mel,

Why are video games so bad in your eyes? Are other hobbies like soccer or board games more valid and why?

What’s your opinion on encore or other event production providers?

We hear a lot these days about tourist washing,

is there anywhere you wouldn't cover as a tourist destination for political, social, or ecological reasons?

Ohmygosh! Thank you so so much! I was so surprised you were able to reply to me still! It made me cry out of joy. Thank you! Thank you so much!

Hi Mel! A follower from France here. I love your work and energy! Thank you for being you and all the great messages you send 😊

How do you differentiate a love that is healthy and that you will build upon, from a love that's not meant for you? How to differentiate someone we idealize from someone that we wholy and truly love? I love my boyfriend very much, but I sometimes wonder if I'm biased (well probably, but I'm not sure we can be unbiased when talking about feelings and emotions haha). So what's the most important thing to build a healthy relationship? (I hope my questions are clear, as English is not my native language)

All the best to you!

Hi Mel😊 Big fan here! I changed my anti depressants after 10 years of being on them just a few months ago because they’d lost effectiveness, but I’ve had an absolutely awful time switching over to my new ones unfortunately. I’m only on 20mg of Prozac currently, but I’m speaking to my doctor tomorrow to up to 30mg after going back & forth about if I should or not for the last month. I’m still incredibly anxious, suffer from depersonalisation & have intrusive thoughts. I started back at work just before Christmas which took all my strength to do so, but I’m still having mini panic attacks when I go into the office. Long story short, my question is - How can I gain back my confidence in myself after being knocked down so badly & when I’m still not in a mentally stable place? I force myself out of bed every morning, I listen to your podcasts, I do the 5 second rule but I’m still suffering with bad bouts of anxiety/depersonalisation & intrusive thoughts. I just want to get out of this rut & gain my confidence back so I can be happy again. Any advice? Thanks for everything you do❤️

That is great to hear. A good lesson for all of us to second guess everything that we read even from reputable publications. I am loving the new podcast and look to you as a model of someone who left the practice of law and truly found their calling. Thanks for the wisdom.

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Don't feel broken.

Embrace your amazing brain.

Your ADHD is a superpower, even if it drives you crazy.

And remember, it's not that you can't focus - it's that you have trouble directing your focus when you feel overwhelmed or not that interested.

I plan on a doing a ton of episodes about this - it's a huge issue for women that I have personally experienced myself.

But now that you know - you can create systems to support you better.

Please don't feel broken, a whole new world is just beginning for you.

And you asked about how I "deal" with ADHD - the first step of ADHD is acceptance, the second stop is research, and the third is applying what you've learned to your own life.

Hi Ms. Mel! Thank you for everything you do! You are such a blessing! How do you deal with ADHD? I just got diagnosed today and I feel broken.

That is fucking awesome!

That right there is why we are doing this podcast.

I'm so proud of you and I'm so happy for you.

And I'll wear a sparkly blazer with you anywhere.

And if you want to get on the fun bus too -

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002?i=1000587212749

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Thank you for listening and you are a goddess too.

Are you asking me personally how I generate 100k an hour?

I think you're referring to a viral video where somebody asked me what my keynote speaking fee was for one hour.

At the time - it was 100k.

I got to that level after many years speaking about The 5 Second Rule and the science of change to the world's top brands - ie. Starbucks, Microsoft, JP Morgan.

I became the most booked female speaker in the world on the corporate circuit.

But as my business has expanded and my platform has grown and priorities have changed - I have stopped doing a lot of speeches and my price for a keynote has risen significantly.

So technically, I make even more, and as a woman I love saying that.

And here's a really important takeaway in business and in life - when you say no, because you're clear about your priorities, people and companies want you even more.

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Mel!

Your episode on How to Have More Fun was literally life changing this holiday season.

My husband and I really struggled this year. To say the least, we did not have a lot of fun. We even had a separation. And then we decided to stick together. And then a month later came the holidays.

I could feel the judgement and ickyness creeping into my brain as we were planning to celebrate the holidays as a family all together for about 10 straight days which was forecasted to combine my family, his family and his son's mother's family. Do you know how much that could've sucked? Yeah, you do, and you had a podcast about driving a dang Fun Bus into the family headquarters and being judged for being hilarious instead of a hot mess. So...we did it.

We wore matching sparkly holiday blazers to fancy restaurants, we played two really fun, holiday games and we made our 80 year old parents bring White Elephant gifts to exchange-which they had never done before. We laughed, we were ridiculous, we sparkled, we had complete strangers comment on our blazers and we had FUN. I knew I'd be judged-like you said-so I decided to be judged for creating a lot of fun and started the movement. My husband and I showed up united. We wore our blazers, carried a huge board into my cousin's house during a blizzard with hot glued Solo Cups filled with gifts, made Jello Shots, wrapped gifts in funny wrapping paper and were all set to be judged...for bringing the fun. It was our season. It created smiles, joy and warm family memories.

So...thank you. And beep beep, I'll be driving that Fun Bus forever now!

I am a caretaker for a girl with special needs. She can’t walk on her own, has a trach (breathing tube), is non verbal, has a feeding tube, and is sometimes drools. I take her to therapies and our dayhab program and we just hangout and have fun together everyday. I think she is amazing! However, when I tell people what I do for a living, people don’t know how to digest it, they don’t really express any interest, or they make her out to be some vegetable with no thoughts. I often get called a babysitter! I am in no way a babysitter! I know how important I am in her life and for her family. But when people act disinterested or belittle what I do, or the girl I work for it is infuriating! I take it way more personally than I should. How do I separate their inability to see the beauty in someone different, or their discomfort, from my own emotions and self worth?

Thank you for being here for my first ever AMA - and thank you again - I know I've said it a couple times, for your support of The Mel Robbins Podcast.

I am truly humbled by all the feedback and positive support.

And if you have any other question - you can always find me online - @ melrobbins - and I'd love to see your questions and suggestions for upcoming topics of The Mel Robbins Podcast!

I loooove this response more than you know! Yeah! You’re the best! ! !

how do you make $100K per hour ? I listen to you everyday when I walk! You're awesome and my goddess

At any age you can decide what kind of person you want to be next.

And it sounds like you're starting to realize that.

I had a doozy of a time these past few years and did the work to reinvent most aspects of my life.

I think you'll find 3 lessons I learned during the process really helpful - you can listen to them here -

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002?i=1000591280465