I am so thankful you are doing the podcast now.

I was in your studio audience in NYC twice in 2019. You were so wonderful and genuine talking to my group.

You really got me to a good place in my life from all the material you have put out! I still have a long ways to go in personal growth but you have been such a key inspiration.

Do you ever plan to have guests on your podcast that would like feedback on their life?

Bullshit. Of course you can come back from your failures. History is painted w/ people just like you and me who have come back from their failures. The only way to stop feeling so shitty about yourself is to stop looking in the rearview mirror and start looking at the road ahead.

You do have a choice when it comes to the thoughts that you indulge. Stop listening to this bullshit and start telling yourself - you haven't succeeded YET.

DM me on Instagram when you got back on the saddle because I'm not going to listen to your bullshit excuses and neither should you

and if you need an additional kick in the ass (and a loving reminder) that you have the power within you to change your life - and that all of those "failures" were there to teach you something you needed to learn - I highly recommend you listen to this on repeat

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002?i=1000591862344

Yes I do have tips.
#1 - if you can't do it for yourself, do it for your mom. I know she would want you to be the person who isn't afraid to take risks, so in any moment you feel you doubt yourself, ask, what would my mom want to me to do?

This not only leverages the power of objectivity - it also creates meaning from your mother's death because you're using her memory to create a better life for yourself.

#2 - it's important to believe in your ability to change your life at any age. However I find that so many of us don't actually believe until we experience ourselves doing something. For you - that means taking that risk that you're avoiding, because it's only in the action that you truly shift how you see yourself

#3 - Ironically today's episode is all about giving yourself a mindset reset using simple neuroscience - I feel like we must have published it today for you
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002?i=1000595362596

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Hey Mel! Love that you are doing an AMA. I feel like I can’t come back from my failures. I feel so discouraged and I don’t know how to stop feeling so sh*tty about it. how can I get myself in a better mindset? How can I overcome my guilt of not succeeding? I’m having a hard time getting back on the saddle.

What was your process like for self-publishing and reaching the success you did, and what general advice would you give on this area?

Thank you so very much. I will listen to the podcast.

First - thank you for your service and congratulations on creating financial security for yourself.

Now, for your question:

Stop playing fucking video games. You're meant to do more with your life. And if you love them so much - figure out how to create a business around it.

And while you're at it - get outside, spend more time taking walks, hiking, and less time online. There is no way in hell you are going to figure out what your intuition is trying to say to you if there is so much noise around you. I can tell that you have a bigger calling. As I read this paragraph it's very clear that it's haunting you. So stop squandering your time. It's killing your dreams. Get fucking serious about figuring it out.

I did an episode on this - and I hope that it will provide a spark and ignite some clarity for you

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002?i=1000585717691

Hi Mel thanks for all that you do!

After the death of my mom ( whom I had an extremely close bond with) ,the person I was before has also died. I'm working through my grief and working to evolve into the person I want to be now. I want to be the person that isn't afraid to take risks to get where they want to be but I don't think I've ever been able to truly be like that. Any tips for working this crap out of my brain so I can stop being so afraid ?

Much love !

Reply - what does "make room for my future" mean? More details please

Thank you so much - it's hard to explain how grateful I am to hear that something I created to help me get out of bed when the anxiety was so bad is helping you too...

The book that's made the biggest impact on me - it's a tie between The Book of Awakening and The Alchemist. But I do have to say - I am loving David Goggins' new book too and it makes me want to kick my own ass even harder

As a mother of 3 - who has been married for 26 years and built a massive business that required a lot of traveling - I can tell you that balance is not possible. It's all about priorities.

And I will also tell you that even stay at home moms don't have balance. Because I hear from them every day talking about how they put everyone in their life first and never have time for themselves.

At any age you can decide what you want and what kind of person you want to be. It's all about priorities and intention. Do not let fears keep you from pursuing your dream of having a family. Especially in today's world with remote and hybrid work companies are more flexible than ever. And you're not going to do it on your own, you have a partner who will be by your side.

So relax, when you're ready pull the goalie, and trust that the timing will be right.

And for insight into what kids think about a working parent - you'll love this episode of the podcast -

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002?i=1000590944044

Me and my gf both appreciate your reply! Have a great day!

To deal with anxiety - read The 5 Second Rule book and share this episode of The Mel Robbins Podcast with your girlfriend -

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002?i=1000582487785

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For debt - it's a long game. You have to chip away at it. You also have to look at both your expenses and cutting back, as much as you look at how you're going to make more money. You will get it down if you're consistently chipping away at paying it off

and here's another thing - if you can rack up that much debt to the IRS you know exactly how to make enough money to pay it off - so stop licking your fucking wounds and get to work :)

and for those of you who don't know - between 2008 and 2014 we were 800k in debt and took us another 3 years to even get the liens off the house, you can do it, it just won't happen over night

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and that's a great joke about Pooh and Tigger... I'm assuming you're talking about our 3 kids, and they are all fine today, tomorrow who knows!

thanks - i will listen!

Hi Mel! Oh man I have so many questions… I am in the middle of reading your High 5 Habit book and identify with a lot of what you talk about. I feel like my “problems” are stacked, like they are all connected and effect each other, and even if I address the very bottom issue in the stack it won’t necessarily effect the other issues. I will give you an example, I am a people pleaser! I have a sh*t ton of learning disabilities and went to a bunch of different private schools growing up. My teachers were always sending me the message that I wasn’t good enough, I couldn’t do it. They actually would sometimes tell me I couldn’t do things. I was pulled out of school for teachers treating me badly as well. As a result I always tried to befriend adults because I knew at some point they wouldn’t like me, maybe showing them in the beginning how cool I could be, how nice I was would effect how much they hated me later on. I learned people would never really like me for who I was, and that was stacked on my learning disabilities, people seeing me as less because I didn’t understand things the way they did. The learning disabilities are never going to go away, so how can I detach the two issues that I view as connected? Hopefully this makes sense. I love you and everything you do for yourself and for us, thank you!

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Procrastination is a way of coping with stress. you avoid things that require brain power b/c you're on edge about other shit going on in your life. There's only 1 way based on research to deal with moments of procrastination, here it is:

#1 - use The 5 Second Rule when you find yourself procrastinating and count backwards 5-4-3-2-1 to summon your prefrontal cortex and interrupt this habit that you now have of putting things off

#2 - after counting 5-4-3-2-1 just start the task and work on it for 1 minute. Research shows that 80% of the time you'll keep going, the issue is getting started

and one other note - do you give a shit about the thing you need to get done?

maybe this is an issue of priorities and not procrastination. You'll probably find the research related to the "will" and "the way" needing to be present in order to become more productive as a habit. I explain this in detail in this episode -

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002?i=1000592550554

Dear Mel. I am a long-time fan. I grew up in Newton, MA. I am dying to know. What do you think of that Boston Magazine article of you 15 years later?

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I like to think about gratitude as an attitude or mindset that you have about life. That's different than the emotions you may feel or the stress that is causing you to feel anxious. I often say that you can be 2 things at once and you can certainly feel grateful that you have a roof over your head and many blessings and still hate the anxiety and sadness that you feel in your body and emotions. So #1, stop making yourself feel wrong b/c you have a lot in life but you still struggle emotionally, #2 get serious about healing your nervous system and your anxiety and I'd highly recommend you listen to this episode of the podcast -
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mel-robbins-podcast/id1646101002?i=1000582487785

Hi Mel! I’m in my mid 20s and recently landed my dream job, marking a significant milestone in my career. However I am interested in having a family in the coming years as my SO and I are getting serious and discussing future plans.

As much as I love the thought of being a mom, I am scared of losing what I’ve worked so hard for professionally and falling behind in that regard.

How do I prepare myself for kids in the next 5ish years? What can I do now both personally and professionally to be ready for the possible hit to my career? How do working moms balance it all?? My own mom was a SAHM so never saw that balance in action. Thanks in advance, Mel.

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WELCOME! I cannot wait to answer your questions, thank you for being here

The 5 Second Rule really helped me out when I first read it, and it still does to this day. What book has made the biggest impact in your life?