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Snaab OP t1_jbp2l4o wrote

Reply to comment by iamCaptainDeadpool in Hi there — I don’t know you, but I am grateful you’re alive, happy to have reached you, and wanna throw some positivity your way. [Discussion] by Snaab

Well I am absolutely terrible at detecting sarcasm, and admittedly had to look up what caligula meant, so that certainly didn’t set me up for success :P

But your P.S. did get a good laugh out of me, so thanks for the reply. As someone who doesn’t go to parties, I won’t see you there but I’m glad you’re having fun and making people laugh.

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Snaab OP t1_jboy4du wrote

Reply to comment by kirstyau in Hi there — I don’t know you, but I am grateful you’re alive, happy to have reached you, and wanna throw some positivity your way. [Discussion] by Snaab

Sorry to hear about what you’re going through. I of course don’t know your specific situation, but hear me out:

My mom and dad got divorced just last year. After the initial, inevitable hardship my siblings and I went through while we processed our new reality, we are all better off; especially, my parents. They are still every bit as committed to each other as they ever were during their 36 years of marriage. In fact, they text or call every day. But now they get to truly live their lives every day, without having the stress/pressure of trying to cohabitate with another person who naturally exists almost completely opposite from how they each want to. Having their own space and being able to rebuild their independence has empowered my parents to bring their healthiest selves to every family get-together, and they are both amazing grandparents to my brothers’ kids.

My uncle and aunt also got divorced, about a decade ago. She (my dad’s sister) is still obviously around. But he moved back to Canada and no longer comes to family get togethers. They both have healthy relationships with their 3 kids, but they don’t spend any time or keep in touch with each other anymore. Regardless, they are both out there living their best lives.

I also know a couple who got divorced. They then both remarried. One of their partners died. The other got divorced a second time. And then, after 30-odd years, they reconnected and have now been married and loving life together for the last decade.

Finally, there are countless examples of people working through the hardest of times, practicing self-growth, learning how to compromise, and ultimately salvaging a healthy, lifelong marriage that was previously on the verge of collapsing. It requires equal participation from both parties, and it’s hard as hell, but it can be done!

My point is that no matter what happens, whether you end up leaving your husband, or collaboratively rebuilding your love from the ground up — it’s going to be okay. I’m sorry you are going through it, but you are going to be okay. You can handle it, and you’ll come out of these exceptionally hard times a better, stronger person. I wish you the best through it all.

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Purple-Ad-4629 t1_jbovps2 wrote

Reply to Hi there — I don’t know you, but I am grateful you’re alive, happy to have reached you, and wanna throw some positivity your way. [Discussion] by Snaab

HEY!! Right back at ya fella!
You are also important and and something special. And if you’ve ever doubted it yourself, know that there are a small handful of people out of the 8 billion here that would do this with no prompt. Good on you. Good on you friend!

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Snaab OP t1_jboquov wrote

Reply to comment by SketchKYR in Hi there — I don’t know you, but I am grateful you’re alive, happy to have reached you, and wanna throw some positivity your way. [Discussion] by Snaab

I’m so sorry to hear that. Just to throw it out there, I experienced suicidal ideation too in the past, when my circumstances were different. Now it’s been a long time since it’s happened to me, but I never rule out that it might show up again.

My best friend still experiences suicidal ideation off and on. It used to be pretty much constant for him for years, but at this point it is few and far between, lasting just a few hours when it happens. He has accepted the fact that it is just something he experiences, but has learned that it never lasts. He tries to tell me when it does. And even though it doesn’t “make it go away”, he says it always helps just to hear me say I love him and that am here for him, whatever he may need — even if it’s just to know I care.

So now I am saying the same to you. And there are many other people out there who would do the same. If you ever need someone to talk to you can message me on here and I promise to respond! And if you can think of anyone you know personally in life who you trust to know how you feel, who can show you they care without “freaking out” or being overbearing about it, I highly recommend reaching out to them.

Just know that it will pass, and that — aside from how you feel/think when it comes vs. when it goes — the fact that you matter stays the same.

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iamCaptainDeadpool t1_jbombc6 wrote

Reply to comment by Snaab in Hi there — I don’t know you, but I am grateful you’re alive, happy to have reached you, and wanna throw some positivity your way. [Discussion] by Snaab

I was kidding when I said that I am caligula like figure. I am fun at parties and that makes me Stalin. When I am not sending people to the gulag I am sarcastic with them. When people don't laugh at my jokes gulag it is. So my point is why didn't you laugh at my previous joke about me being caligula. You have about 5 second window to laugh and if you don't. It's gulag for you.

P.s- thank you for tolerating my foolishness. Thank you for caring for me. I care about you too... in a non creepy way of course. BTW can I have your home and office address for research purposes of course.

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Snaab OP t1_jbom079 wrote

Reply to comment by Libre_man in Hi there — I don’t know you, but I am grateful you’re alive, happy to have reached you, and wanna throw some positivity your way. [Discussion] by Snaab

I appreciate your thoughts. I agree, it is hard to believe sometimes what we are capable of, on both sides of the spectrum. We as a species can accomplish seemingly impossible things, yet the smallest stuff can effectively cripple us at times if we let it. And you’re totally right that love is the best way to get through just about anything. Thanks for the thoughtful response.

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Snaab OP t1_jboldw1 wrote

Reply to comment by tcriverrat18 in Hi there — I don’t know you, but I am grateful you’re alive, happy to have reached you, and wanna throw some positivity your way. [Discussion] by Snaab

Exactly, I really relate to that. It’s all about the trajectory, not necessarily where we are at any given moment. All we can do is keep trying! And it never helps to tear ourselves down.

You’re welcome, and thanks for your response.

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