I started smoking when I was 15yrs old. The thought of, "NEVER SMOKING AGAIN" was too much for me after having smoked for nearly 20yrs. Instead, I told myself that I am never going to BUY another pack of cigarettes. Then I told everyone that I knew, not to give me a cigarette no matter what I said or how many times I asked. It then became incredibly hard to get a cigarette, which made me have to occupy myself when a craving came along. In reality, it was tough for about a week. Then it was just a matter of discipline because the physical craving was gone and now it is just sticking to my guns and not giving in. I had tried two times previously to quit smoking, and both times started again because I told myself, "I'll just have one" - well, you can guess how well that plan worked. Turns out, I can't even have one because my susceptibility to addiction is just that strong. I learned through trial and error what the right combination was for me to finally stop. I can tell you now, being on the other side of having quit for 12yrs, that your brain will play craaaaazy tricks on you to try to keep smoking while you're addicted. Once you are no longer physically addicted, everything changes. The smell grosses you out, you notice your fingers were turning yellow, you have SO much more air in your lungs, you feel way better in general, you stop waking up every morning and coughing junk out of your lungs, you realize how insane it is to pay $7+ for a pack of cigarettes every day, the list is endless. No smoker ever wants to hear this, but I promise it is true......everything is better once you stop. Everything.

And i don't like her because she's dealing with this shit, i liked before she even told me abt this ex.

The thing is her ex has been a bitch to her, used her only for physical purpose on the context of a relationship while she thought the otherwise. She dumped his ass ass right away but she's still not able to overcome the trauma he has given her. She admits that she likes me alot but the thing is i don't know if it's right to continue this relationship because I genuinely like her alot, met someone like her after a long time that i felt such connection with. I just wanna get her out of this truama.

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Idk I purchased it a while ago. It may have been a third party

Is this where you purchased this poster? I love this!

I thought that was from Ghandi

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"These pictures on the Internet easily dupe them" - Albert Einstein

As a clinical psychotherapist and many years of experience in relationship dynamics, you’re dealing with some level of desire and attraction hidden in resentment and pain. On the surface, the healing process looks like overcoming resentment and pain, but deep down those emotions cannot exist without yearning and attachment.

Look at it this way to simplify it all to the most reductive level. If a random person passing you on the street who you didn’t notice even existed insulted you, you’d probably laugh and walk away. If your mother or father or anyone you had an attachment of love to insulted you in the same manner, it would hurt you deeply. The factor that makes the difference is your attachment to the individual.

If your gf wasn’t still in love or in yearning for her ex, she wouldn’t need proof of what love is. Your love towards her means nothing. That’s not what SHE feels. It’s her love towards you that she needs to feel. It’s her uncontrollable desire towards you that dictates what “love” looks like to her.

You can’t show someone love…it’s a feeling…that only she can feel…and she currently feels that for someone else. That’s the harsh reality you need to face regardless of how YOU feel about her.

My best advice is to walk away with respect and explain that you need her to overcome her past on her own before you can dedicate any part of you to her. She may cry, she may insult you, she may blame you. But the reality is that you’re only a shoulder to cry on, a crutch that is being taken away and it’s the only way for her to truly heal. To learn how to walk on her own again. And if you truly mean something to her, she’ll return because you displayed respect for yourself and for her. And that’s what she lacked in her past relationship which will click for her once she heals and she’ll respect and truly fall for you.

If she doesn’t come back, she was going to leave you once she finished drying her tears on you anyway. Take it from someone who has been through it and who has helped BOTH parties recognize this when doing relationship work with both sides of the picture.

I couldn’t real the first panel for the life of me but I really like the message and art

This speaks to me.

Growing up I couldn't have possibly imagined that my actions would have any significant effect on others around me, I felt so incredibly invisible and meaningless and worthless, I did anything I could to feel like I mattered and to be noticed.

Only now, like 20+ years later do I realize that I myself am sometimes "the protagonist in someone else's movie" who's actions actually make or break someone else's day.

It's such a mind fuck when you realize that you actually do mean something to other people and your influence actually makes a noticeable difference in their life path just as someone else you liked made a difference in yours long ago.

Equate 4mg nicotine mini lozenges, lime flavor. You can get a 4-pack (108 lozenges) at Walmart for $30. All the fun nicotine without the pesky carcinogens. Overall cheaper than cigarettes too

Honestly, been smoking myself since I was about 14. ALL THE TIME. Like, a pack a day at least. I got a new job where I am not able to smoke on the property, and so I figured I would try the disposable vape thing....

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Haven't smoked a single cigarette since Christmas. Definitely not as healthy as quitting completely, but honestly it was surprisingly easy to transition to Vaping. 20 bucks at the gas station, and it lasts me a couple of weeks.

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Plus, if I need a quick nicotine fix, I can step into the break room and hit my vape a few times. Cuts down on the frequent smoke breaks I used to be tempted to take.

I’m currently stuck a spot in my life where I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much!!

Yaay lgbtqilmnop+ monsters! So motivating 👊

Do you like money?

Hey you’re welcome, and thanks for sharing — I appreciate the response. Keep hanging in there, and always remember that we’re in it together as long as we choose to be!

I used 21mg nicotine patches and 2mg lozenges in the morning when I would have been smoking.

I’ve heard that people have success with microdosing psychedelics also.

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If you've seen the movie Wolf of Wall Street I saw an interview with the real guy and he said he literally always feels like he has no idea what he's doing. I forget who he was talking to, but the other guy was also very successful and he said the same thing. The real smart people never know what's gonna happen next. You just have to rely on your ability to learn an act. If you don't feel this way you probably have a boring life with a low paying job. You aren't using your brain at all and already know all the answers. Feeling stupid is actually quite a good thing. You're only gonna feel that way when you are challenging yourself.

Cold Turkey is the only way brother. Think of it this way. Smoking deprives your skin of oxygen and nutrients. Every time you have a pack you age 3 months. I don’t know if your a man or a women but In todays society your judged on appearance and if you look 50 at 30 goodnight Irene. Plus smokers smell like shit.. no offense I used to be one and threw all my old clothes out..

Sorry to hear that, but happy to help.

Tomorrow is a new day, let’s focus on the “controllables” to make it a better one!

Smoked for 30 years. I have tried quitting several times and each time I tried weaning myself off cigarettes. This last time, I tried weaning myself again and when I realized it wasn't working, I said "f it" and stopped buying cigarettes.

Every time I wanted a cigarette, I would get up and walk. So I basically replaced my bad habit with a good habit.

I did buy a 0 nice vape for the oral habit while I kicked the addiction, but it was totally a waste of money in my case. Used it less than a week and it's been sitting in a drawer for the past year.

March 31st will be 1 year nicotine free and I've lost 85+ pounds instead of gaining weight.

I didn't know I needed this poem in my life, thank you!