What if I'm trying to improve my ability to criticize others?

I wish I had known this two years ago.

Hmmm okay I see the question is mainly about what not to run from. What is the abstract idea of “life” that I propose were running from

My answer to that is the present. And that can be present desires, present thoughts, present feelings, etc.

A tangible example is something common I hear about a lot—someone really wants to start a YouTube channel but is absolutely full of fear about it. They may escape this desire by making themselves busy. They could start a new house project and then say “It sucks I just don’t have the time to get started on this YouTube channel”

Or I know I’ve personally been guilty of convincing myself that work is actually busier than it seems, so I don’t have the energy to start a new project that I find daunting

Hope that example makes sense 😅

i can multitask

Those parts I already understood from your post but I don't really think you are answering his question which I was also curious to know the answer to.

Damn it.. I seem to be constipated :(

Haha you asked where are you going with that but that was a quality spew

Think you’re dead on

It’s definitely an attention war right now. That’s a huge commodity right now

Great sentiment at the end—thanks for sharing 😄

Ok but not the worse motivational quote ive read here 😂

But don’t they recognize things from their caterpillar life? Proving that it’s a conscious transformation?

I definitely get your point, there’s alot of abstract here so it’s confusing to find something practical to apply

The mental escape part in my perspective is being stuck in the past or obsessing about the future aka not being present

Sometimes I’d fall into a pattern of “I’ll be happy once I get this.” Like when I graduate university then I can enjoy myself. Then it was when I get a full time job then I can enjoy myself. Then it was when I get a raise/promotion then I’ll truly be satisfied. That’s one escape. I wrote off the present and just made life about the future. The anxiety over stability and comfort made me keep moving the goal post.

Or being lost in the past. I’d glorify the past and not bother trying to make the present great because it just won’t reach the level of satisfaction the past had.

I hope these examples offer some more clarity!

Also I’m right there with on introspection. I think a alot of people coukd benefit from that reflection and “analysis” of the self

Thanks for sharing!! 😄

I suspect it means that there is a tension between, say, settling down, buying a house, and starting a nuclear family; and working toward an ambitious goal, ad the latter may require mobility, not to mention kids = big time (and money) commitments.

As a guy in his early 20s, motivation is something that is good. Discipline is better.

Today's day and age is filled w stimulants. Porn, social media, streaming services, video games, alcohol, weed etc.

All of them are just escapes.

Porn hijacks that need we have for intimacy. Sort of filling the sexual part, but not the emotional bit a partner provides.

Video Games trap you in a cycle of dopamine so that you keep playing for hours

Social media tries to catch your attention with whatever they can.

Attention span is going down, depression is rising, people are more and more lonely. But I can't recall anyone in my time during school actually saying discipline is a good thing. Hell we look at some parts of the US and porn is almost encouraged among young teens / barely teens. Almost guaranteeing they will struggle w addiction later.

What does every big corporation want? Your time. For you to spend time w their products. Time can never be regained, only be spent. So make sure to spend it in a way that builds a good future while also letting you enjoy the present.

Where am I going w all this? Fuck if I know. But if someone reads this, 1% at a time, improve your life, cut out the things that don't want the best for you and it will get better it did for me, it will for you too

I like your basic idea but what is it then exactly that you propose that we escape from? What exactly should we not run from as much? You talk about it in such general points that it is unclear.

You say even getting lost in your thoughts is an escape. I would argue that people who don't introspect or do not spend any time pondering are the ones running away from their problems. But you seem to mean something different. Can you define better what exactly we should focus on more or what we should ideally not escape from as much. You say "life" but how do you define it in this context?

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Eh. Criticism is important. Sometimes that dumbass needs to know.

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Taking that dump now😤

Well, damn! That's great news! I'm taking a dump right now!

Respect to that. That is true. A lot of people confuse success with being a trillionaire. Thanks for the reminder

When it comes to the elite, yes - for everyone seriously vying for it is already quite likely working at the top of their game. But that just comes down to the question of what "success" does and should mean for you personally.

And in the beginning at least, it's also learning what exactly you want to do and to have a point of focus. (I am kinda jealous of those Olympic athletes, not because they work hard so much as because they KNEW what they wanted from the youngest age and didn't worry about opportunity cost). And practicing deliberately, meaning you are consciously aware of what parts of the skill are missing and adjusting your practice accordingly.

I needed to read that.

Not 100% sure but it reads like something Melody Beattie would write

Sure, but he still died. He basically builds his own casket and then dies in it. Any attempt to analogize this to humans automatically brings with it a requisite belief in an afterlife as that is what a butterfly would have to be analogous to.

Needed this… teaching is hard 😞