Recent comments in /f/GetMotivated

LunaMoth116 t1_jbdftjx wrote

I really don’t care for these “motivating” false dilemmas. Never mind that they encourage negative self-talk (which we could all use more of, amirite? 🙄). These are not the ONLY options for why you are not successful, or don’t believe yourself to be. What happened to mediocrity? Being average? Just being “okay” at something? We are not all “A” or “F” students in the school of life; the “C” student deserves attention too, because they are no less worthy of motivation or praise and no more deserving of contempt and condescension than the outliers are.

Maybe you don’t completely suck at something, but you’re not that great at it, either. So what? If you enjoy it, can support yourself, are respected by your peers, etc., isn’t that good enough? Maybe you’re too hard on yourself, but that doesn’t mean you should get a swollen head either. Why not just be self-aware enough to know that, like everyone else, you’re a WIP who’s doing their best, and you can never stop improving?

Either way, false dilemmas are irritating and deserve to be called out for the BS they are. 😑

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thrilledteashop15 t1_jbdap0x wrote

Man this hits hard for me. I’m 32 years old, I thought I’d eventually feel comfortable with myself as I got older. But I absolutely hate myself, every success is minor or a fluke while every mistake is the worst mistake anyone could possibly make. I thought therapy would help, but it hasn’t yet. It’s such a weight, I feel so tired, hating myself. But I can’t seem to give myself any grace at all. 🤷‍♀️

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NiroThomas t1_jbd1g15 wrote

If you truly believe in yourself you will be able to accomplish anything you put your mind to, convince yourself fully that it is possible, and you will succeed!

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