People are afraid of the unknown as if the unknown is worse than what they're experiencing now.

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Be strong and learn punctuation.

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Everything starts with a seed I hate to say it bluntly but in order for something to live that means something must die. Don’t be afraid to let old ways,habits and relationships die so that healthier ones can start

if this belongs anywhere i'd say r/terriblefacebookmems

A little bit of toxic, but okay.

Yup!!! I'm starting my New Year's resolutions over AGAIN!!!! This article helped me gain a better perspective on what I need to do better this time. Hope it helps any of you who are "failing better." ;-)

https://assignmenthumanity.substack.com/p/the-only-resolution-that-we-all-need

“It’s safe to say that.. I don’t think you understand. There’s nowhere left to turn, walls keep breaking. Time is like a leaf in the wind, either it’s time well spent or it’s time I’ve wasted… don’t waste it.”

Thanks for this clarity...much needed as I cut off a 2 decade plus friendship that was fading away thanks to nostalgia being the centerpiece of that person's thoughts and memory bank.

I can guarantee you it’s not a decision. As a widower I can say it’s not possible to not think of what you’ve lost. It’s unavoidable. The tide of grief comes in even after years of being out. You cannot ru away from it in any healthy way. You cannot control it.

Im learning to start over inside, instead of blaming external. (For my situation)

Dealing with a lack of punctuation defines my patience.

Not going to judge anymore for how they live their life but I can tell you that my Dad became a widower in his mid 20s and made a personal decision in recent years to really focus on nostalgia and I can definitely tell you that decision has had real tangible negative consequences for him. I don't judge him for doing it, but I can testify that overloading on nostalgia is not without cost.

God this so so much. I feel like society has trained us so much that if you aren’t on one continuous path something is wrong with you. I was a teacher. Then I became an admin and hated it. So I left to pursue theater work as a designer for 5 years and now I’m ready to go back into teaching so i have a more consistent schedule and have better benefits to have kids. The side eyes I have gotten from people is weird, like im some kind of terrible employee. Normalize trying different things in life, you will be happier in the long wrong if you get out of something that isn’t right for you at that point in time.

If anyone in here needed a hug today I'm sending lots out on the winds to the 4 corners of the earth. Step outside, take a deep breath in, relax, feel the air. The hug is there for YOU, may the sentiment bring even a little strength to your day friends ❤️

Tell that to me whose parents held on to a house way longer than they could comfortably afford to because "memories" and basically have to sell it now after losing thousands of extra dollars in maintenance and property taxes that they don't have when they would've been far better off financially selling it 5+ years ago

You can have compassion towards the old times. That’s how I found healing. Loving someone through all the different versions of themselves, even the ones that hurt me, because I know they can do better and they weren’t vibrating at their highest frequency at the time because of the situations that had unfolded. It’s best to let go of expectations, . And recognize that they can’t always meet you where you need them to, but don’t have expectations that they will. Just love purely and freely.

"in my life, I have seen people walk into the sea. Just to find memories plagued by constant misery"

Favorite line from Cage the Elephant

Fire is cleansing, yes, and does have some symbolism of rebirth (phoenix comes to mind).

But in terms of symbolism for trying something new and improved, a young plant that will grow makes way more sense than watching something burning. That kind of imagery invokes a sense of acceptance to me.

this is nonsense blather…nostalgia can be soothing & can connect people..even if it was harmful, this is word salad

Don’t be afraid to rework yourself too, starting from ground zero is not going to be the play much of the time.

What about widows and parent who’ve lost a child.

Save your unrealistic cookie cutter happiness recipes

I kinda needed this thx

Absolutely. A little more sympathy goes a long way, but not when when it comes at the cost of your own growth.