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I feel like someone with ADHD would kill to be tired instead of energized for once. No?

One thing I also did was I kinda created my own mission statement. Why I wanna do what I wanna do and what’s it gonna benefit me from it. So, I wrote it down in 1-2 sentences and put it everywhere and that’s my motivation for it. I’m constantly reminded of why I’m doing it

Sure, but is someone allowed to just be what they are?

I don't want to be better, I want to be what I am.

I usually find that the thought of things are much harder than when I actually do them. Good luck.

Im mean, thats probably it. and more positive than what I was gonna say, Which is your parrents sound kinda trauma inducing. and maybe a role in your mental health. ergo what Truebynature said is relevant. get catapulted and away from threatening "support structures"

Just know this thing...as ugly it may be looking now, if you look better, your parents like you very much. And doing this is their way to show it

Strongly recommend pole dancing or aerial sports (Lyra, silks, trapeze) - great for decompressing joints and building muscle. Moves can be modified for different levels of impact. Going to a stretch/yoga class could be a good first step.

Source: osteoarthritis yeehaw

When I was in high-school I got really ill. My parents took the tough-love approach and I'm so glad they did or I think I'd still be ill over a decade later. I have a good life!

My advice is to do things you know are good for you even if they don't seem appealing in the moment. Things that are enjoyable for you. A walk, a trip to the gym, 1 hour reading a book, bake a cake: whatever you enjoy. It's a huge part of learning to take care of yourself.

Also have a "bad day protocol" because you will undoubtedly have bad days. The key is to prevent a bad day from turning into a bad week and old habits. Make a short list of things that are still achievable on a bad day. My 3 things were: Get out of bed, get washed and dressed, leave the house once (for any reason). Do this so that even on a bad day you will still have accomplished something and won't feel like you've "failed" and go into a depressive, demotivated spiral.

Best of luck! You can do this! (but I think you know that. The fact you're here asking questions proves it!)

Dude

Blessing in disguise

Moving away from parents is the best thing anyone can do. Part of your mental issues stem through both their parenting u as a child and your interactions now.

You literally got invitation to a better future.

And as always remind yourself: what the worst that could happen? Because in reality the worst thing would be needing to go back live with parents at some point, not anything else as u may fear now.

Damn, someone figured out they’re the construct of soul and are working with the spirit/concept of them as an individual. Congrats my friend, and thank you for the inspiration, it’s something I needed a reminder of.

No 3kcals per day, you’ll drop that fat in no time.

On a serious note, and as a personal trainer stress and sleep can cause you to hold on to weight. I find I need 7-9 hours per day and getting rid of major stress sources will have you feeling better.

You got this! By sharing it here we know you are determined. We wish to see the very best from you.

I don't think its really saying that. I take it as being the best YOU that you can be. We are all different. and that's a very good thing. Your friend for instance that's in a wheel chair. What he did to contribute to medical technology is exactly what the quote says. He has seen the beauty and strength of what HIS body is capable of. That's really inspiring tbh.

To a point I can totally feel this. I had only gotten fit as an adult and felt great about it. I used to work out almost every day. Then I got myself into running, went from not being able to run continuously for twenty minutes to running 45 minutes three days per week. Was in good shape. But in more and more pain.

Pain got so bad that I went to see the doctor. Got told I had a physical issue that is not curable and would only get worse. I got told I wasn't allowed to go running ever again. Or some other activities I enjoyed doing.

Felt defeated. Broke down crying when I got home.

This point on is where our story differs. I put time in finding what still works for me. Found sports and activities I hadn't really done before but was able to do with my condition. Worked with my doctor and a physical therapist to see what helps. Now I still work out almost every day, it's just different sports or exercises but the same amount of time spent.

As to losing fat: that is lost in the kitchen.

You said in your comments you couldn't stick to 1800 calories a day, but the calories by themselves are only part of the equation. I know some recipes that make you three pounds of food/1.5 kgs that contain less than 500 calories. It's so much to eat you can't possibly finish but you feel like you are overfilled all the time so it's easy to stick to. You can talk to a nutritionist to find out what forms of eating work for you.

Now I don't know your pain so I do not have advice on working out. I don't know if there are ways to improve your condition and I don't know if sports are even recommend for you.

But in my experience, keep talking to the doctor and if you can afford it or it's covered by insurance, also work with either a physical therapist, good personal trainer and possibly a nutritionist to get started and find what works for you in the long run.

How do you do it? Cause it ain't easy. How do you renew your desire to do it?

I've been a disaster zone for much of my life. I am changing and you can too!

My brother, on the other hand, often says, I'll think about it tomororq. He also thinks that change is too hard.

1. I've learned one thing. Do it BEFORE. What er it is. Do it before

2. YouTube videos about adhd organization. Helped me a bunch.

I am also rooting for you! You Sound like you want to make it. And that's the key.

I believe you mean sympathy.

Sympathy is acknowledging that the other person is going through an emotional or physical struggle, supporting them and giving them comfort. Empathy is something very similar to this. It’s actually understanding what the other person is feeling because you’ve had a similar experience yourself or you’re able to put yourself in their shoes.

You can always be better

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Are you kidding? Lol I'm at 2500 and can't seem to cut anymore without it affecting even more my energy levels Also tried for a while 1800 but couldn't do it for more than a month

I don't know why you're down voted here. I'm not sure on the legality but concerning the morality you are spot on.

Came here looking for this. Thank you for this incredibly nuanced point.

Do 3k calories a day - you’ll drop weight quick and do some minor exercise and walks- build it up

facts 🙃