It’s okay to have fear, just keep moving forward scared. Get into action first then your feelings will follow. Doesn’t work the other way; can’t think yourself into feeling better.

That’s my point. In my view he was biased and wanted some sweet eye candy.

As people mentioned here: a note book.

Here’s my method: on a blank sheet of paper, write down everything in your head that has to get done. Big or little. Break down goals into sub goals. Add to it over a couple days. also the “getting things done” method has a GIANT checklist for every category of life, work, medical, etc. This list will be massive and crazy overwhelming. But it’s not in your head anymore. You have a blue print to who you want to be and how you want to act. Don’t forget this is a rough draft. Literally brain dump. Word vomit. This is your master list. I usually title mine fun things like “shitshow round up”.

Next, I have two methods to organize the brain dump depending on the type of work that needs to be done and how much help I have. I have crippling anxiety and ADHD so Prioritizing tasks is really difficult sometimes.

Method 1 (best for prioritizing help): Eisenhower matrix. This is a 2 x 2 matrix that is divided into urgent versus not urgent on one axis. The other axis is divided into important versus not important. The things that land in urgent and important will need to be done by you ASAP. Things that are important, but not urgent will need to be scheduled. If you have help, if something urgent but not important this is a task that doesn’t require your expertise or input in so go ahead and delegate it if you can. If you don’t have assistance, which it kind of sounds like they really want you to be independent, the order I do things is urgent and important, then I schedule everything, swing back around to the urgent but not important tasks and then complete the rest by schedule. The last category is not urgent and not important. Traditionally, this category is known as “delete it”. I can’t do that. It might not be important to me right now or life-threatening but it’s something still in my brain so I usually put this on a separate piece of paper for my next to do list.

Method 2 (best for categories, easier when things have clear priorities like for example, work has to be completed or you will be fired): for this method, I usually make large categories like chores, work, school, health, hobbies, tasks that I need to do for someone else. In a separate space I usually also put upcoming deadlines. For me usually work or school have things that are very urgent and I know that I prioritize them over things like hobbies that I would like to get done. The other two sections that I usually put on the page across from these categories are things to get done ASAP and things to get done this week. Then I just rewrite the task over on one of these lists. Repeat daily and weekly until the large list is gone.

Final step: cross things out as you go. Draw arrows by the check box if it is getting transferred to the next list.

I do this monthly (or try to). When I get really overwhelmed with things floating around in my head, I sit down and do this.

Some tips: if you try this, write the list tonight. All it takes is a pen and paper (I like dot paper). that way, any appointments you have to make you can do first thing tomorrow. (This may also mean researching things for said appointments like providers in network etc tonight). Have those numbers ready so that on break tomorrow you can call! Work will be easier to schedule around those appointments sooner rather than later so get that out of the way.

Final tip: when I was really going through it (studying for my medical school entrance exam+spring of senior year in college+finals+massive Competition that I worked like 300 hours for+then my grandpa died), I got a dry erase wall calendar that was 3 months for all important dates and crossing the days off one by one. When I was studying for my first board exam, I got extra large full stick post it notes and put like 60 on the wall, all marked with how many days till the exam, study material, and color coded for routine. I micromanaged the shit out of my life because when I’m anxious I need something to channel that energy into.

Okay, that’s all my advice about what works for me and how I manage my demons. also I love my meds. Those help too.

And? Gays are probably more fit than straight men on average due to more emphasis on visual attractiveness

I just go to look hot and attract boys

Uhhh. What if you don't like exercise bc it's incredibly boring?

Once you start writing everything down and crossing them off when completed, you will feel in more control. It won’t seem so overwhelming anymore. You’ll be able to see your progress and be proud of yourself. Just keep moving forward. Fear can paralyze you but action can kick fear to the curb. Good luck. You can do this. If you start having doubts, talk with someone. Online, in person. Write back after you get going and let us know how you’re doing.

I don’t need a thank you. I know they love me and care about me. They’re just scared if I’m not capable of getting my shit together now, adult life is gonna be impossible. I get it.

That may be, but Oscar lives on Sesame Street in a trash can.

I wouldn’t want to live anymore

If you're looking for shift work, write down 10 chores around the house you don't mind doing. Companies generally hire for these tasks.

Remember, people are generally really f****** stupid and they manage just fine. You have some wits so im sure you can work it out and thrive.

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Hey actual good advice for once. If you’re not forced to adapt, you won’t have to adapt.

Change isn’t always good but if you’re looking to improve, seek challenges.

This is a good article.

5 Reasons Why You Should Use Fear As Motivation To Achieve Better Things (elitedaily.com)

Did your tough love involve taking away healthcare for someone with health problems? The other stuff seems like tough love to me.

The threat of taking away healthcare from someone who actively needs it and legally entitled to it is so extremely risky and, therefore, cruel. Medical care is a very different topic from everything else here. OP is at an age where her parents are legally required to provide health insurance coverage.

Are you in the US and under 25 (or 26 maybe)? If so, taking away your health insurance is illegal. I'm not sure how to go about enforcing that, but talking to a lawyer might help.

It could save you if they decide to deprive healthcare from you. Which, by the way, is morally wrong for you parents to do do you.

They do, I know that they love me but they’ve just run out of ways to support me. I’m trying to take it one task at a time, and avoid listening to the part of me that drags me into the pit.

Needed to see this. Thank you

Not really motivating but great managerial advice.

Thank you, I will. It’s really encouraging to see the parents turning out under this post.

Luckily no, I don’t use any substances that aren’t prescribed to me. But I do need to stop my short term rewards from getting all my time.

Good

Life is on the other side of comfort.

I am so sorry you’re going through this. You’ve gotten a lot of good and very valuable advice here, you should give it all consideration. Although, with that said, we did pretty much the same thing to my son. He has all the same issues (and more) that you are going through. He now tells me, five years later, it was one of the best things we could have done for him. He was scared also but it gave him confidence and accountability. It’s called “tough love” and believe me it’s hard as hell and heartbreaking to do that to your child.