this is so true ma friend

Wtf has that to do with it..never forget doesn't mean always bend over backwards.

I'll never forget the library lady who bought me a cheap plane ticket so I can do a summer REU thing at a prestigious institution when I had 5 dollars in my bank account. I know that changed things for me. If she had called asking for help when my SO was in the hospital, it is unlikely I'd have been able to help. Tbh that is not when I could help other s bit when I needed even more help.

But other times? If she wanted help with figuring things out, she could always call me and I'd listen and say. Yup let me teach you this or can't right now but I can look at it tonight or this weekend and get back to you tomorrow or on Monday, if that works for you.

(Past tense because she sadly passed away)

But even going further, it doesn't have to be big spoons. It can be small ones. Today I have extra time to help a colleague. Yeah I could goof around but being aware of people who've helped me and not forgetting them means that instead I will look for a colleague who might need a bit of help.

This is what it means..sometimes use upa spoon you'd use on yourself to help someone. How many spoons and how often depends on circumstances.

Good for you

That’s pretty sad for you. I don’t have a lot of company I keep. Tons of bad people I’ve met, people who will let you down or purposely screw your over. But I do have a couple ride or die mothers fuckers I can call if I need them. Will show up no matter what your problem is and give you a hand. I don’t call them very often, but I know they are there. They know I’m there for them too. I would wish every good person has some friends like that.

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Nobody. That's who helped. Not the family, the church, the community, nobody.

they might also just betray you again when your guard is down

Okay 👍

I’d try to fail

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So oooo sorry

Love, not lice* so sorry

Love, not lice. So sorry*

I apologize for my comment. I don't know your situation, and have no idea what you've been through. It was wrong of me to presume to address your feelings. I'm sorry you're in such a dark place right now. I hope you can find your way through it, and I hope things get better. I'll be thinking of you often, I'm sure. Lice to you and those you care for.

In some sense yeah it does!

In another sense standing on the shoulders of giants is more exciting because we get to blaze new trails that they couldn’t blaze. Progress is made by building off the backs of what others did

We get to pick up the mantle and take it further, rather than running the same race they did.

So by doing it alone and ignoring the giants we just do what they did already, which sounds a little boring

Hope that makes sense 😅 it’s definitely open to interpretation—I don’t think there’s a one size fits all advice for anything

“Figuring life out alone.” Sounds so much more exciting than standing on some giant shoulder.

Keep it in the relm of possibility

I've gotten the obligatory family help more recently, but nothing outside of that.

if i could do one thing without failing, making my SO cum.

Jack of all trades

That’s the power of the home depot

Agreed! Years ago I helped a young sales manager to become head of business. He repaid the favour and gave advice when I came up for promotion in my role. Respect goes both ways.

The person who understands me best these days is my ex crush who I swore I'd never think about again, go figure ... I'm now glad I chose to calm down and stay friends with her instead of blowing it all up - even though I don't think of her that way anymore, it's still good to have someone to talk to as a close friend; we know too much about each other to become completely estranged anyway

Was it Jesus?

It's Jesus isn't it

People are complex. Pure good and pure evil people only exist in fairy tales.